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What is it like to kiss in public in India?

在印度當眾接吻是什么體驗

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Aman Singh, White-Collar Professional
Answered November 26, 2018 · Upvoted by Shubhrata Yadav, lives in India (2002-present) and Sona, lived in India (1991-2014)
I looked into her eyes, she smiled and we kissed
It was the last day of college. She had already booked her flight back to Bangalore and I knew it was the last time I would see her.
Year - 2013, Friday Evening
We boarded the metro, our friends got down at the respective stations. Now it was only me and her.
We reached Rajiv Chowk.
The station was crowded as usual. And we spoke for the last time.
She - So whats your plan ?
Me - I don’t know. I’ll take on my first job from next month. So you’re leaving tomorrow ?
She - Yes. You wanna come ? (wink)
Me - I wish, but Bangalore is far, far away.
She - I’ll miss you.
Me - Sure you will. I’ll miss you too.
She held my hand and said with a lower voice, “Good bye”.
She moved closer to me, I placed my hands firmly on her cheeks and guided her face towards mine.
I was looking into her eyes. She placed her one hand on my shoulder and the other one on my waist.
We went for the kiss.

我看著她的眼睛，她微笑著，我們親吻了
那是大學(xué)的最后一天。她已經(jīng)訂好了回班加羅爾的機票，我知道這是我最后一次見到她。
那是2013年，一個星期五的晚上
我們上了地鐵，朋友們在各自的車站了下車，現(xiàn)在只有我和她了。
我們到達了Rajiv Chowk。
車站像往常一樣擁擠，那是我們最后一次說話。

她：你有什么計劃呢
我：我也不知道，從下個月起我將開始我的第一份工作，你明天就要走了么？
她：是的，你想跟著我去嗎？（眨眼）
我：我也想，但是班加羅爾太遠了。
她：我會想你的。
我：我相信你會的，我也會想你的。

她握著我的手，低聲說：“再見”。
她靠近我，我把我的手緊緊地放在她的臉頰上，將她的臉轉(zhuǎn)向我的臉。
我看著她的眼睛，她一只手放在我肩上，另一只手放在我腰上。
我們吻上了。

I was kissing her, I could hear her breathing, I could sense the increase in her heartbeat. The passion, the misunderstandings and all the craziness of 3 years just in that one moment.
I held her arm and hugged her. Giving her a sense of confidence that we could be together. Eyes still closed. Its been a couple of minute that we were in this position.
As I gazed, I realise how beautiful she is. The innocence on her face and her trust on me said a lot.
The moment we turned around, we see - stares. A lot of stares.
Damn! The moment was ruined within seconds.

我吻著她，我能聽到她的呼吸，也能感覺到她心跳在加快。三年的瘋狂、誤解和激情全都傾注在那一刻。
我挽住她的胳膊并抱住了她，這給她一種我們可以在一起的信心。我們的眼睛還閉著，保持在這個姿勢已經(jīng)有幾分鐘了。
當我凝視時著她時，我意識到她是多么的美麗，她臉上的天真和對我的信任、仿佛會說話。
當我們轉(zhuǎn)過身來，我們看到 -- 凝視，很多人在盯著我們看。

The security guard was staring at us
Old citizens were giving us pathetic looks
Few young boys commented “get a room perverts”
While few hooted
Some clicked pictures
Man, it was embarassing.
I gave them a serious look instead of feeling guilty and hiding face. I held her hand and walked her towards the metro.
She was embarassed too. I accompanied her till her destination just to make sure no one is following her.
We laughed it off on the way. Later I bid her goodbye.
Next day I called her and hear “the number you have dialled, does not exist”.
We never spoke again after that day.
Answered - “What is it like to kiss in public in India?”
It feels like you are suddenly surrounded by highend human CCTV cameras
It seems that the world stopped for a moment. No, literally everybody stops to see you kissing
You will be called by pathetic names
And you will be taught morals within few minutes
Adios!
Image courtesy - google
Edit - Yes she blocked my number. Just few misunderstandings and we knew it was never going to workout between us and we never forced things. It was a mutual decision.

保安也在盯著我們看
老年人則表現(xiàn)出一種可悲的表情
有幾個男孩評論道：就不知道找個房間么，死變態(tài)
發(fā)出尖叫聲的倒是很少
參見上面的圖片
小伙伴們，我真的很尷尬。

我嚴肅地看了他們一眼，而不是捂著臉心懷內(nèi)疚。我拉著她的手，陪她走向地鐵。
她也很尷尬，我一直陪她走到了目的地，只是為了確保沒有人跟蹤她。
我們在路上一笑而過，后來我向她道別了。
第二天我打了個電話給她，電話里傳來一句“你撥的號碼不存在”。
那天之后我們再也沒說過話了。
在印度當眾接吻是什么體驗？

On the evening before the wedding is when we have reception in most of Tamil weddings. So, we were standing in the queue to wish the bride and then, my friend X got all emotional looking at her on stage and gave her a hug on stage. Following him, another guy also hugged her. But, it was more of a spontaneous reaction, seeing her on stage. For most of you, this might not seem like a big thing but it actually is, in certain places, this might even stop the wedding (very rarely).
I started laughing and then my friend, the bride, looked at me and was like, “Saranya, for God sake, please hug me and go!”. I gave her a hug and left the stage.
Throughout the evening, aunties and uncles and grannies and grandpas were pointing fingers at my poor friend. He didn’t really understand if he did something so wrong. The brides’ cousins came to us and were like, “Boss, were you that guy who did it?” As if he killed someone, lol.
The next day, in the wedding also, everyone kept staring at us. It was so funny.
So, forget kissing, even “hugging tight” will get you stares, if you’re in a village or town here. In cities like Chennai and Hyderabad, hugging won’t matter much, but kissing in public will definitely get you countless stares.

在婚禮的前一天晚上，泰米爾的大多數(shù)婚禮上都會舉行招待會。所以，我們排著隊向新娘許愿，然后，我的朋友X君在臺上看到新娘，激動地給了她一個擁抱。X君之后、另一個男人也擁抱了新娘。但是，這更多的是一種看到新娘在臺上之后的自然反應(yīng)。對你們大多數(shù)人來說，這似乎不是什么大事，但事實上，在某些地方，這甚至可能會毀掉一場婚禮（非常罕見）。
我開始大笑，然后我的新娘朋友看著我說：“Saranya，看在上帝的份上，請擁抱我然后離開！”. 我給了她一個擁抱，然后離開了舞臺。

然后整個晚上，阿姨們、叔叔們、奶奶們爺爺們都對我那可憐的朋友指指點點。他真的不明白他是不是做錯了什么，新娘的堂兄弟來找我們，說：“小賊，是你干的嗎？”好像我那朋友殺了人似的。
第二天，在婚禮上，每個人都在盯著我們看，太好笑了。
所以，接吻就不要想太多了，如果你在印度的一個村莊或城鎮(zhèn)里，即使是“抱一抱”你也會被人盯著。在金奈和海得拉巴這樣的城市里，擁抱沒多大事，但在公共場合接吻肯定會讓你被無數(shù)的目光盯著。

According to section 294 of Indian Penal Code, “causing annoyance to others through obscene acts is a criminal offence with a punishment of imprisonment up to 3 months or a fine, or both”.
There’s no definition as to what “obscene” means here and so it’s often misused. When Richard Gere kissed Shilpa Shetty during an event publicly in Delhi, the Indian court issued an arrest warrant for him, in 2007.
Although, things have changed since then, it’ll take decades for this to be taken easily in India.

根據(jù)《印度刑法》第294條，“通過淫穢行為、給他人造成煩惱是一種刑事犯罪，可處以3個月以下監(jiān)禁或罰款，或兩者俱罰”。
但印度并沒有對于“淫穢”的確切定義，所以經(jīng)常會被誤用。2007年，當Richard Gere在德里的一次公開活動中親吻Shilpa Shetty時，印度法院對他發(fā)出了逮捕令。（譯注：這二人都是演員）
盡管從那時起情況發(fā)生了變化，但要想在印度輕松地做到這一點，還需要幾十年的時間。

It was a similar case, we both were waiting for our respective flights, holding hands unable to think of the next moment when we both had to part, I was crying and he too had tears in his eyes, as the boarding announcements started it was my turn to leave him and go, I refused to get up, I finally managed to get up and stand in the queue but as soon as he started to walk away, I felt a tingling sensation in my heart, I couldnt let him go, I kept my luggage in a corner and ran after him, at that moment I didnt care about the surrounding, or that people were looking at me, I held him tight and kissed him, it was pure love, we embraced for one last time, and suddenly in that busy airport all eyes were on us, it did feel awkward, a couple of them were looking at us in disgust,I simply did not care, he mattered for me and I mattered for him.
End of the story.
A few moments later, I heard 2 aunties discussing about our loose morals and that we were demeaning our culture. I simply chose to plug my earphones and look away.
Whats wrong with a bit of PDA?

類似的情形，我們在等各自的航班，手牽著手、無法想象下一刻我們就要分開，我哭了、他也哭了，因為登機通知開始了，我是時候走了，我不想起身。終于、我站起來排隊了。但他一走開、我心里就一陣刺痛，我放不下他，我把行李放在角落里，追著他跑，那一刻我不在乎周圍的環(huán)境，也不在乎別人是否看著我，我緊緊地抱著他，并吻了他，那是純粹的愛，我們最后一次的擁抱。突然，在那個繁忙的機場里，所有的眼睛都盯著我們，真的覺得很尷尬，有幾個人厭惡地看著我們。但我根本不在乎，他對我很重要，我對他也很重要。
故事結(jié)束了。
過了一會兒，我聽到兩位阿姨在談?wù)撐覀兊牡赖聹S喪，說我們在侮辱印度的文化。我只是選擇了插上耳機，然后看向別處。
公開示愛有什么問題嗎？

Now, 2 years later…
He is serving in the Indian Air Force, currently posted in Kashmir and I am in Military Intelligence, posted in Delhi, parting is still tougher now, but now we are even more bold, we dont care about what others think, we still have tears in our eyes whenever we have to part.
We both love each other, yet we also love our motherland more than anything, we salute the flag with all our heart and we kiss each other with love, Tell me Are we doing something wrong that I should feel afraid or ashamed ?
My mom always use to say, Only those who are stealing or peddling drugs should be ashamed, If I am not doing both why should we be guilty of displaying love in public?
I love him and he loves me and that is all it matters.
We kissed again and every single time we do, we attract attention, we are bold mature adults who love each other, yet the society has a problem.
Every single time.
The constant stares, the looking down and even having to hear comments about our upbringing we have seen it all.
Parting takes place in Railway stations now more than Airports, its Ironic, we travelled by flight when we were not earning and now when we are finally earning we travel by train, that is how life is…But one thing has not changed, we still love each other the same way we did in high school.
Places have changed, Situations have changed but one thing which is constant is our bond, and kissing is more about the emotional connect than the physical one.
In love for more than 7 years and counting, Kissing is normal for us, and we have got used to getting reactions from people…I have only one question, Do you even have any idea how difficult it is to stay away for 11 months a year?
We are planning to get married in 2020.

現(xiàn)在，兩年后…
他在印度空軍服役，目前駐扎在克什米爾，我在軍事情報部門，駐扎在德里，現(xiàn)在分別還是比較艱難，但現(xiàn)在我們更加大膽了，我們不在乎別人怎么想，每當我們必須分別的時候，我們的眼睛里仍然有淚水。
我們都愛著對方，但我們也愛祖國勝過一切，我們?nèi)娜獾叵驀炀炊Y，我們用愛的名義親吻對方。請告訴我，我們做錯了什么，我需要感到害怕或羞愧嗎？
我媽媽經(jīng)常說，只有那些小偷的或毒販子才應(yīng)該感到羞恥，如果我沒有做過這兩件事，為什么我們要為在公共場合示愛而感到內(nèi)疚？

我愛他，他也愛我，這就是一切。
我們再次接吻了，每一次接吻我們都會引起注意，我們都是大膽成熟的成年人，彼此相愛，但社會卻有問題。
每次都是這樣
不斷的凝視、鄙夷、甚至不得不聽到說我們沒教養(yǎng)的評論。

如今，離別發(fā)生在火車站而不是機場。諷刺的是，在沒有收入的時候我們乘飛機旅行，現(xiàn)在當我們終于有收入了，我們卻乘火車旅行，這就是生活的方式……但有一件事沒有改變，我們?nèi)匀幌窀咧袝r一樣相愛。
地方變了、情況變了，但有一件事是不變的，那就是我們之間的聯(lián)系，接吻更多的是情感上的聯(lián)系，而不是身體上的聯(lián)系。
戀愛7年多了，算起來，接吻對我們來說很正常，我們已經(jīng)習慣了別人的反應(yīng)……我只有一個問題，你知道一年分離11個月有多困難嗎？
我們計劃2020年結(jié)婚。

EDIT
Thank you for the all the positive response and comments, I didnt expect this, and someone asked me how to get into MI?
Some one has commented that today we will kiss in public and tomorrow we will make out in public, are you guys even normal human beings ? And that there are single guys who are desperate…well I dont even know what to say.
And this is to that person who thinks I went anonymous because I am scared of receiving flak, haha, I went anonymous because being in Military Intelligence, there are some protocols to follow.
Someone even called me an upvote hungry guy, well I have a question for you, why should I even bother about upvotes, anyway I am answering it anonymously and neither the number of upvotes nor the number of views are going to matter at any point, please keep your accusations to yourself.
Recommending my name for an award? Well no thanks, I earned my uniform and I will earn awards with my sweat and blood, on a second note awards don’t matter, do they ?

編輯一下：
謝謝你們所有的積極回應(yīng)和評論，我沒想到會這樣，有人問我如何進入軍事情報機構(gòu)？
有人說，今天我們會在公共場合接吻，明天我們就會在公共場合調(diào)情，你們是正常人嗎？還有一些單身男性感覺絕望了…我甚至不知道該說什么。

那些說我匿名是為了不被噴的人，我要對他們說，哈哈，我匿名是因為在軍事情報部門，有一些協(xié)議要遵循。
有人甚至稱我是一個渴望被點贊的人，那么我有一個問題要問你，為什么我還要為是否被點贊而煩惱呢？反正我是匿名回答的，點贊數(shù)量和瀏覽量根本不重要好吧，指責我的人還是手下留情吧。
推薦我的名字以獲得獎項？不了謝謝，我的制服是贏來的，我會用我的汗水和鮮血贏得獎項，還有一點，獎項很重要嗎？

Ritika Agarwal, studied at Indian Institutes of Technology (2018)
Answered September 13, 2018
Pretty normal.
I have been an active spectator of public kissing ranging from mild to wild, credits to having lived in a college campus for four years where kissing in public happened as subtly as holding hands!
Will you believe me if I said that the designated spot for makin-out in my campus was a parking lot right opposite to the administrative building! Yes, the building from which an entire institution of 7.5K students is controlled, witnesses both sexual and emotional splurge routinely from 6–9 in the evening, every single day of the week.
And yes, guess what? The parking lot, yeah? It is meant for professors and administration’s staff to park their vehicles.
There is also a pretty busy narrow road which passes in between the parking lot and the admin building and is parallel to both of them. Students take this road very frequently to commute to and fro from their hostels.
If you are new to the campus and are taking that road for the first time, you seem to observe the various silhouettes in dark in the parking lot. That scene in the dark might seem quite unnatural to you, for you have come from the outside non-campus world that stringently looks down upon any form of PDA.
But after taking the road for a couple of more times, you simply don’t observe any differently or assign any special importance to the parking lot. It becomes just so normal and mundane.
You start treating the entire scenario just like any other element of nature in the background.
Hey! Wait a second! Isn’t that what kissing is meant to be? Isn’t it just a part of our natural selves, a way of nature and largely nature itself!

Payel Das, An Indian surviving currently on German soil
Answered Jan 18
I was in my second year of college then. I had just started a new relationship. You know right, the excitement level is at its peak in the initial phase of a relationship! I was always on cloud 9.
My then boyfriend stayed 3 stations away from mine and often we used to travel back home together. Once our classes ended earlier than usual, and he asked if he could accompany me to my station. I was in the phase where I believed love happens like the one shown in Bollywood movies. I was excited.
We hopped on the crowded train and were giggling. We hadn’t done anything, not even held hands, but I could see the judgemental stares around. And guess who was giving those: middle aged married women (mostly)!
At a certain point, I started to get very uncomfortable and told him about it. He said ‘let’s give them more reason’, and kissed me on my cheeks.
Before I could realise what he said and did, the show was already over. I was surprised and confused. I didn’t know how to react. I liked it, of course. But it was so sudden and short lived that I went numb for a few seconds.
My stop came and we both got down along with dozen other people. I could hear fleeting sounds from a couple of those women, ‘Aj kalker meyera koto nirlojjo’. (Women these days are so shameless). I was stunned. They specifically pointed a finger at me, the female!
He asked me to ignore them but the words kept ringing in my ears for a significant period of time.
Do you see what I am trying to say here?
Kissing in public in India makes the woman look bad specifically, the men usually are not questioned enough. She is judged more extensively, her character slut shamed quite often and if that’s not enough, even her family is character-shamed for this. IT IS JUST A SIMPLE KISS.
I was surprised people had so much free time to comment on random strangers in public. Why can’t you just let go?
I am not the rebel kind unlike my then boyfriend specifically for these kinds of bizarre reasons. I don’t appreciate my family being blamed on my behalf for these unwritten, so-called societal norms that one has to abide by. It is pitiful and saddening enough in the first place anyway.
I don’t see what is so wrong with just kissing in the public. Yes, we can get a room. But it is just a kiss, we are not engaging in full blown sex. How on earth does it make you uncomfortable?
I don’t think I will ever know.

那那時候我讀大學(xué)二年級，我剛開始一段新的戀情。你知道嗎，在一段感情的最初階段，興奮程度是最高的！我感覺自己一直在天上的感覺。
我當時的男朋友住在離我3站遠的地方，我們經(jīng)常一起回家。有一次我們的課比往常提早結(jié)束了，他問可不可以陪我去車站，當時我認為愛情就像寶萊塢電影里一樣。我很興奮，
我們跳上擁擠的火車，咯咯地笑。我們什么也沒做，甚至連手都沒牽過，但我能看到周圍的批判目光。猜猜這些目光是誰投來的：中年已婚婦女（大部分）！

在某個時候，我開始感到很不舒服，并告訴他這件事。他說“給他們更多這樣盯著我們的理由”，然后他吻了我的臉頰。
在我意識到他說了什么、做了什么之前，表演已經(jīng)結(jié)束了。我感到驚訝和困惑，我不知道該怎么反應(yīng)。我當然喜歡了，但它是如此突然和短暫，我愣了幾秒鐘。
接著我到站了，我們和其他十幾個人一起下了車。我能聽到其中幾個女人轉(zhuǎn)瞬即逝的聲音，“Aj kalker meyera koto nirlojjo”。（現(xiàn)在的女人真是無恥）。我驚呆了，他們還特別用手指著我 -- 就是那個女人！

他讓我不要理他們，但這些話在我耳邊響了很長一段時間。
你們明白我在說什么嗎？
在印度，當眾接吻會讓女性看起來尤其糟糕，而男性通常不會受到多少質(zhì)疑。女性會受到更廣泛的批評，女性的人格經(jīng)常會受到羞辱，如果這還不夠的話，甚至女人的家庭也會因此感到羞愧，僅僅只是接了個吻而已。

我很驚訝、人們?yōu)槭裁磿羞@么多的空閑時間、在公共場合評論隨機的陌生人，你們?yōu)槭裁淳筒荒茈S它去呢？
我不是那種叛逆的人、不像我當時的男友，特別不會因為奇怪的原因而叛逆。我也不想我的家庭因為我受到指責（因為一些不成文的、所謂的社會準則）。不管怎么說，從一開始這就夠可憐和悲哀的了。
我不明白，在公共場合接吻有什么不對。是的，我們可以訂一個房間。但這只是一個吻呀，我們并沒有進行全面的性行為，到底是什么、讓你感覺不舒服的？
我想我永遠都不會知道。