這一切都取決于你想要什么。你想要它的原因，以及你對它有多大的信心——以持續(xù)性地方式創(chuàng)造它，有時候，你只需要給別人一些空間，信任他們，做出一些好的假設，并繼續(xù)保持良好的心情，愉快地期待你想要的結果。事實上。因為你知道你的價值和重要性，你知道你會被認可和“選擇”，所以你越能讓它（3D）變得毫無意義，真正地不把這些事情看作是一個問題或威脅——3D追你得越快。

Dylan James 14小時前 2020 03 08

I just want to do a real-talk post about

when someone says "I need to process this" / "l don't want a relationship right now" / or an ex pops up, third party, etc. and the person needs "time to figure thing out"

當有人說“我需要（在3D）處理這件事”/“我現(xiàn)在不想談戀愛”/或突然出現(xiàn)前任或第三者，而對方需要“時間來弄清楚”

*Again* -> I don't know where people got their false information from, but relationships *RE QUIRE* Growth. It your person needs some time to figure things out, and you think that they're just treating you like an "option":

重復，我不知道為什么人們從哪里得來的錯誤觀點，但是關系“需要”發(fā)展，你的SP需要時間來思考，你這樣想的話，那他們只是把你當作一個“可選項”；’

that is you interpretation，that is your story.

這就是你的解釋，這就是你的故事

that is your awareness and if you feel/ believe that, then it will be. Pressuring someone， getting upset with them, wanting to manipulate them or get frustrated with them; taking everything 100% personally is a sure-fire way .and quick ticket to creating more problems and really making this a consistent story in your life, and relationships.

你意識到并且你感覺或者相信這些（狗屁），那這就會是事實。由此你對某人施加壓力，因為某人而感到不安，想要去操控他們，或者因為某人而挫敗。把每件事100%歸因在自己身上是讓自己心安的方法，由此得到一張快速入場券去制造更多的麻煩，并讓這些故事和這些關系在你的生活始終如一。（你相信狗屁，并對3d做出反應。如果sc上去了，你知道你是最好的，你根本就不會搭理這些破事）

Pause: *breathe*

停頓；呼吸

What is the basis of a relationship?

一段關系的基石是什么？

Trust

相信

Back to the point:

回到主題

However, if you can realize that *we all have moments* *we all need to figure things out sometimes*,*its not 100% personal* and you can just be supportive know your worth & value (by not chasing them)give your person some time to figure things out and hold a dominant assumption that at the end of the day, they will pick you, love you, and give you the treatment you deserve - then that will be your experience.

但是，如果你能意識到“我們都有這些時刻”，“有時候我們需要去弄明白”，“這并不是100%的個人（原因）”，你只是需要些許可和理解，來知道你的價值與重要性（不是通過追逐他們），給你自己一點時間來弄明白，在一天的結束保持一個主導假設——他們會選擇你，愛你，讓你得到你應有的對待——這些都將是你的體驗。

When you decide to be with someone There is going to be up's and down' s.

當你決定和某人在一起的時候會有起有落。

*it is a part of life. * How you choose to perceive it, respond to it and deal with it is your responsibility. if you are so quick to cut everybody off because they are having a human moment, and you're taking everything 100% personally, you're going to jump around from person to person to person and cut yourself off from opportunities to develop yourself , learn

yourself and be an effective partner.

“這是生活的一部分”，你如何去察覺這些，回應這些并且處理這些都是你的責任。如果你因為每個人都有屬于他們的人性（搖擺）的時刻，而很快地切斷與他們的聯(lián)系，你把每件事都100%看作針對你，你就會從一個人跳到另一個人再跳到另一個人，切斷自己成長的機會——通過自主學習成為一個積極可靠的伴侶。（不解決自我概念，一味逃避會陷入循環(huán)。）

Deciding to still be with this person *does not* mean that you do not know your value or worth. It is *not* bad.

決定去繼續(xù)和某人的繼續(xù)在一起“并不”意味著你不知道自己的價值或者重要性。這并“不”是糟糕的。

Find me a perfect relationship that has never had challenging moments. Find me marriage that has lasted 20+ years where some persisting did not have to take place .Where faith in your partner, trust in your partner, belief in your partner and giving them loving, respectful, space to come back to you the way you deserve - did not take place.

你給我找一段從來沒有問題和挑戰(zhàn)的完美關系。給我找一段（不需要兩個人）相互堅持就可以持續(xù)了20多年的婚姻。真誠予你的伴侶，信任你的伴侶，給他們愛、尊重和空間，讓他們以你應得的方式回到你身邊——這些沒有發(fā)生過嗎？

（大概是就是兩人之間需要不斷磨合，你清楚你的價值，你也相信和認定、給予耐心對你的伴侶。）

It all comes down to what you want. why you want it and how confident you feel with being able to create that in a sustainable way. Sometimes you just need to give people space, step into trust, make good assumptions and continue to feel good-pleasantly expecting your desired outcome. In fact. the more you can make it nothing and really genuinely not see an of these things as a problem, or a threat because you know your value and worth you know you will be recognized and 'chosen"- the faster that will occur。

這一切都取決于你想要什么。你想要它的原因，以及你對它有多大的信心——以持續(xù)性地方式創(chuàng)造它，有時候，你只需要給別人一些空間，信任他們，做出一些好的假設，并繼續(xù)保持良好的心情，愉快地期待你想要的結果。事實上。因為你知道你的價值和重要性，你知道你會被認可和“選擇”，所以你越能讓它（3D）變得毫無意義，真正地不把這些事情看作是一個問題或威脅——3D追你得越快。

By no means am I saying to be in something abusive but you have to have a level of security, stability and confidence within yourself to:

我絕不是在說不好的事兒，但你必須有一個安全，穩(wěn)定和自信的自己:

A. Not take everything personally: Monitor your perception and the stories you're creating in your mind。

A.不要把每個事都當作針對于你，在你的思緒（腦中）監(jiān)督你的察覺和你正在創(chuàng)造的故事。

B. Emotionally self-regulate: Decide to be happy, Decide to do things that make you feel confident, loved and good in you body。

B.個人情緒管理；決定去快樂，決定去做些讓你變得自信的事情，去愛你的身體，對你的身體好一些。

C. Make confident decisions: Know it into being and allow it to unfold

C.做出充滿自信的決定；知道它已經(jīng)存在并且允許它展開（在你的3D）。

Go after what you want, and do that Shamelessly .

做你想做的，并且毫無羞愧。

Stop getting everyone else' opinions, decide for yourself. Be the change.

停止去采納（征詢）每個人的建議，自己做決定，做出改變。

You're showing the world how to treat you based on what you believe and feel about yourself

Your self-concept creates the world in which you live.

基于你對自己的相信和感受，你會向這個世界展示（它）該如何來對待你自己。你的自我概念創(chuàng)造出你生活的世界。

People are responding to you, showing up based on your beliefs and assumptions (this is why people can be so vastly different depending on who they're around).

人們會基于你的信念和假設來回應你，（這就是為什么不同的人在一起會有很大的區(qū)別的原因。）

Create a self-concept that gives the people around you the ability to grow, be authentic , trusting, loving and forgiving of mistakes just like need to be that way with yourself .Be the Change .Be the Solution.

樹立一個自我概念，讓你周圍的人能夠成長。成為真實的，值得信任的，有愛的，寬恕錯誤的人，就像對待自己一樣。做出改變，做出解決問題的方法。

Don't be a doormat, but also be able to handle challenges and "problems" with grace, confidence, self-value, self-worth and trusting those around you，coming with good assumptions and beliefs。

不要做受氣包，而是成為可以帶著優(yōu)雅，自信，自我價值，自尊來處理挑戰(zhàn)和“問題”的人

，用良好的假設和信任來信賴你周圍的人。

?以下來自他某個視頻中自己的評論；

Stop Trying ,Start Being

停止嘗試，而是現(xiàn)在擁有！

Stop Victimizing ,Start Shining

停止受害者情結，開始燦爛

Stop Caring ,Start Deciding

停止在意（他人意見），開始（自己）做決定

Stop Fearing ,Start Believing

停止害怕，開始堅信

Stop Waiting ,Start Enjoying

停止等待，開始享受

Everything IS a choice .You're showing the world how to treat you based on what you believe and feel about yourself .and what you believe and feel is going to be your story/what you have to deal with it. Stop trying to change everyone ,and everything； realize that you need to confidently. Calmly , respectfullly and fearlessly be the change.

每一件事都是一個決定，基于你對自己的相信和感覺，你對世界來展現(xiàn)(它該)如何對待你。你所相信和感受的都會成為你的故事/你必須處理的事物。停止去嘗試改變任何人和任何事，意識到你需要的是自信地、冷靜地、受尊敬地、以及無所畏懼地、成為改變、

Know it into being.

知道3D正在追你了，他媽的。（別懷疑了）