諸暨英語(yǔ)口語(yǔ)培訓(xùn):發(fā)脾氣其實(shí)也是一件好事
可能大多數(shù)心理學(xué)家說的最普通的一句建議是:我們應(yīng)該抓住今天,活在當(dāng)下。
Perhaps the most common advice made by psychologists is that we should seize the day and live in the moment.
這樣做可以幫助我們更積極樂觀,避免三種聲名狼藉的情緒狀態(tài):遺憾,生氣,擔(dān)心。
Doing so helps us be more positive and avoid three of the infamous emotional states:regret,anger,and worry.
最終,它建議我們避免集中太多注意力在遺憾和生氣在過去的事情,擔(dān)心在未來(lái)的事情。
Ultimately,it suggests that we avoid focusing too much on regrets and anger about the past,or worries about the future.
但是我們?nèi)祟惖纳嬉蕾囉趯W(xué)習(xí)和計(jì)劃,沒有活在過去,你不能學(xué)習(xí),沒有活在未來(lái),你不能計(jì)劃。
But human survival relies very much on learning and planning.You can’t learn without living in the past,you can’t plan without living in the future.
像遺憾和擔(dān)心一樣,生氣也是一種重要的情緒,它保護(hù)我們不被其他人虐待,激勵(lì)我們周圍的其他人保護(hù)我們的利益。防御型悲觀可以幫助焦慮的人們做好設(shè)置一個(gè)合理的目標(biāo)代替恐慌。
Like regret and worries,anger is an instrumental emotion.it protects us against being abused by others and motivates people around us respect our interests.Defensive pessimism can help anxious individuals prepare by setting a reasonably low bar instead of panicking