材料來(lái)自扇貝（https://web.shanbay.com/reading/web-news/articles/zlqyp）， 出處：https://www.boredpanda.com/toxic-positivity-phrase-reddit/（找了半天才找到）；

網(wǎng)上搜索Examples of Toxic Positivity可以找到相關(guān)的更多短文…… 以下為ChatGPT做的雙語(yǔ)版本

Very often, when people open up about their problems or negative thoughts they have, the first instinct of the other person is to cheer them up, try to reassure them that everything will work out and that there are worse things that could happen. People who try to make the troubled person feel better don't usually mean any harm, but they actually are forcing positivity on a person that can't see the lighter side of the situation at that moment. 人們經(jīng)常在打開(kāi)心扉談?wù)撟约旱膯?wèn)題或消極想法時(shí)，他人的第一反應(yīng)是鼓勵(lì)他們，試圖讓他們放心，告訴他們一切都會(huì)好起來(lái)，而且事情會(huì)有更糟的。試圖讓困擾的人感覺(jué)更好的人通常并不是有意為之，但實(shí)際上他們是在把積極性強(qiáng)加給一個(gè)此刻看不到問(wèn)題好的一面的人。 Dismissing negative emotions, trying to forcefully see something good in a terrible situation and trying to find false reassurances is called toxic positivity. It often becomes a way to respond to a distressful situation when you don't know what else to say. But feeling the emotions that you're having is important, regardless of whether they are positive or negative. 漠視負(fù)面情緒，試圖強(qiáng)行在糟糕的情況中看到好的一面，以及試圖找到虛假的安慰，這被稱(chēng)為有毒的積極性。當(dāng)你不知道該說(shuō)些什么時(shí)，它通常成為應(yīng)對(duì)困擾性情況的一種方式。但感受你正在經(jīng)歷的情緒是重要的，無(wú)論它們是積極的還是消極的。 人們分享了一些他們認(rèn)為屬于有毒積極性類(lèi)別的短語(yǔ)，并希望別人不要再說(shuō)。他們希望聽(tīng)到的是同情和祝福。 1. "It all made you stronger." 這種說(shuō)法讓我感到不舒服，因?yàn)樗鼰o(wú)視了我不得不努力克服的所有胡說(shuō)八道。我讓自己變得更堅(jiān)強(qiáng)。創(chuàng)傷讓我變得軟弱、疲憊，成為了一個(gè)令人厭惡的自己。如果我允許這些控制我的人生結(jié)果，我會(huì)陷入一個(gè)黑暗的地方。我努力奮斗，是我讓自己變得堅(jiān)強(qiáng)。所有那些摧毀我的經(jīng)歷。 2. My grandma telling me that I have to put up with nasty family members "because they're FaaaMilYYYYYyyyy". 我奶奶告訴我，我必須忍受惡劣的家庭成員，因?yàn)樗麄兪恰癋aaaMilYYYYYyyyy”【1】。他們是壞人，我不會(huì)讓他們毒害我的生活，僅僅因?yàn)槲覀兪怯H戚。 【1】這里AI直接用了原文，翻譯成“他們是你的家人啊” 3. "You don't need medication for depression or anxiety. You just need to go outside and smile more!" “你不需要抑郁或焦慮的藥物。你只需要出去多走走，多微笑！”? 4. 'you have it much better than other people' “你比其他人過(guò)得好多了?！?好吧，我知道這是真的。但我討厭人們?cè)诓涣私馕业那闆r下就否定我的經(jīng)歷。 5. "You're really pretty for a chubby girl" Thaaaaaanx. “對(duì)一個(gè)胖女孩來(lái)說(shuō)，你真的很漂亮?！?謝謝?！?】 【1】“謝！謝你”、“聽(tīng)我說(shuō)謝謝你”、“我真的會(huì)謝” 6. "I just strive to be an honest person. I'm sorry if it hurt you". “我只是努力做一個(gè)誠(chéng)實(shí)的人。如果這傷害了你，我很抱歉?！?有些事情真的不該說(shuō)，行嗎？ 7. Why can't you just be happy? 你為什么就不能快樂(lè)呢？ 8. Family is meant to hurt and forgive. 家庭就是用來(lái)傷害和原諒的。 我認(rèn)為這是胡扯。 9. "Life will be easier if you just accept that you'll be doing most of the house work"….Ex-boyfriend's mom in response to a conversation about how ex-boyfriend did not help with chores. “如果你接受你將大部分時(shí)間做家務(wù)，生活會(huì)變得更容易”...是前男友的媽媽在回應(yīng)關(guān)于前男友不幫忙做家務(wù)的談話中說(shuō)的。 ? 10. "Having expectations on relationships only lead to disappointment" “對(duì)關(guān)系抱有期望只會(huì)導(dǎo)致失望?！?那我是不是應(yīng)該接受他們想怎么對(duì)待我就怎么對(duì)待我？ 11. "If I can do it, you can do it." “如果我能做到，你也能?！? 12. "You are only hurting yourself when you are crying. Look, I'm unaffected." “當(dāng)你哭泣時(shí)，只會(huì)傷害到自己?？矗液敛皇苡绊??！? 13. "Don't waste your time worrying about it." Sorry but I can't help it. “不要浪費(fèi)時(shí)間擔(dān)心它?！?對(duì)不起，但我控制不了。

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