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What is the best way to impress a girl?

給女孩留下好印象的最好方法是什么？

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Ritesh Saini, I've had several relationships我談過(guò)幾次戀愛(ài)

Read her cues...
What does she have? What does she wish she had?
For example, my best friend is a 5 foot tall fiesty little Italian bartender...
And well, frankly, a Bitch on wheels
She rolls her eyes and can't stand being approached. By ANYONE.
She hears she is hot so many times a day, she doesn't care to hear it. Anything a guy tries to say to her is completely ignored.
We went to a bar a couple days ago to get a couple drinks and play music on the juke box.
Some guy kept trying to talk to us, complimenting out music choices, handing us money to put in the juke box because he "liked our music" (a tactic)
My friend just grabs the money and puts it into the video poker machine instead and tells him to get lost.
Angered, he tells her, "your stuck up and recluse" and turns to me and says "your aggressive and offensive"
My friend started squealing with Delight!
To be insulted, and pegged so ACCURATELY was like music to her ears!!
She instantly warmed up to this guy, had a drink with him, laughed and talked and played music on the juke box for him.

讀懂她的暗示
她擁有什么？她希望得到什么？?
例如，我最好的朋友有5英尺高，是個(gè)活潑的意大利酒保，坦白說(shuō)，她是一個(gè)女強(qiáng)人，她受不了和任何人親密接觸，她一天能夠聽(tīng)別人說(shuō)很多次她很火辣，但她根本不想聽(tīng)。男人想要試圖拉近關(guān)系和她講話(huà)，她都不在意。幾天前我們?nèi)チ艘患揖瓢珊攘藥妆?，在自?dòng)點(diǎn)唱機(jī)點(diǎn)了歌。有人一直想和我們搭訕，稱(chēng)贊我們的音樂(lè)品味，把錢(qián)放在自動(dòng)點(diǎn)唱機(jī)上給我們，證明他“喜歡我們的音樂(lè)”（這也是一種策略），我的朋友抓起錢(qián)，把錢(qián)放進(jìn)電動(dòng)撲克機(jī)，讓那個(gè)人滾開(kāi)。搭訕者生氣了，告訴她，“你自大又孤僻”，然后對(duì)我說(shuō)“你既有侵略性又有攻擊性”我的朋友高興得尖叫起來(lái)！被侮辱，被如此準(zhǔn)確的評(píng)價(jià)，這些話(huà)就像在耳邊的音樂(lè)一樣動(dòng)聽(tīng)?。∷芸炀蛯?duì)這個(gè)家伙產(chǎn)生了熱情，和他一起喝酒，大笑，交談，為他點(diǎn)歌。
如果他早一點(diǎn)了解她，他會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)她顯然了解了一切，而且鄙視別人的關(guān)注。

Had he read her signs earlier, he would have seen that she has clearly "heard it all" and despised attention
What she likes is honesty --- she has had enough phoney people trying to compliment her or ask questions about her life when she feels it's just a hookup game.
Bitches/man haters like insults and assholes, and treasure honesty
Emotionally fragile/insecure like compliments about their body and financial gestures like free drinks or shots, they want you to point out other women and make fun of them.
Egotistical/know it alls appreciate conversationalists that will argue with them but ultimately come around to their way of thinking.
Angry/damaged people like to talk about what's wrong with everyone else, what happened to them, and how it's not their fault
Holier than though/soapbox types like people exactly like them, or wide eyed gullible types who beg for their guidance
The list really goes on and on...
Just find out about her past, about her personality, and how approachable she is, and you should be able to draw some kind of conclusion as to how to get close to her

她喜歡的是誠(chéng)實(shí)。當(dāng)她覺(jué)得這只是一場(chǎng)勾心斗角的游戲時(shí)，要知道她已經(jīng)遇到足夠多的假惺惺的人來(lái)恭維她或過(guò)問(wèn)她生活的問(wèn)題。
婊子或者討厭男人的人喜歡聽(tīng)真話(huà)，而且很珍惜對(duì)她說(shuō)實(shí)話(huà)的人。
感情脆弱和缺乏安全感的人，他們喜歡對(duì)她們身體的贊美，喜歡免費(fèi)飲料之類(lèi)的和金錢(qián)相關(guān)的行為，她們希望你指著其他女人并取笑她們。
利己主義者/無(wú)所不知的人喜歡愿意和他們討論的人，但最終會(huì)改變他們的思維方式的健談?wù)摺?br/>憤怒或者受過(guò)傷害的人喜歡談?wù)搫e人的問(wèn)題，討論別人的遭遇，以及為什么這不是他們的錯(cuò)云云。
圣母/肥皂劇類(lèi)型的喜歡和他們完全一樣的人，或懇求指導(dǎo)的易變類(lèi)型。?
如要全部列出來(lái)真的有很多很多。?
只要了解一下她的過(guò)去，她的性格，以及她有多平易近人，你就應(yīng)該能夠得出一些關(guān)于如何接近她的結(jié)論。
Daniel Churchman, ESL Teacher / TEFL Trainer / Administrator ESL老師/ TEFL培訓(xùn)師/管理員

1. Ask her about what she cares about.
2. Listen to what she says.
3. No, I mean listen to what she says.
4. Remember the key points of that content.
Pro-tip
If you really want to knock her socks off, note something she offhandedly mentions, just in passing, that she likes.
Let some time elapse. Enough time for her to assume you either didn’t hear her mention it, maybe just weren’t listening, or forgot about it.
Then get it for her.
If she’s a woman worth having, she’ll think you are a man worth having, and the look on her face will reward you immensely.
Very likely, she’ll reward you in other ways too.

1、問(wèn)她在乎什么。
2、聆聽(tīng)她所說(shuō)的話(huà)。
3、不，我是說(shuō)傾聽(tīng)她說(shuō)了什么。
4、記住她說(shuō)的內(nèi)容的重點(diǎn)。
專(zhuān)業(yè)提示
如果你真的想徹底征服她，那就記下她隨口提到的她喜歡的東西。
再過(guò)去一段時(shí)間，直到足以讓她認(rèn)為你沒(méi)聽(tīng)她提起過(guò)，也許是你沒(méi)注意聽(tīng)，要么就忘了。
然后再買(mǎi)給她。
如果她是一個(gè)值得擁有的女人，她會(huì)認(rèn)為你是一個(gè)值得擁有的男人，她臉上的表情會(huì)給你極大的回報(bào)。
很有可能，她也會(huì)以其他方式回報(bào)你。

It’s really not that hard for men and women to impress each other. It’s just seems to be hard to remember that the one you are trying to impress doesn’t think the same way as you do; doesn’t get his/her sense of being loved fulfilled in the same ways you do.
There will be all kinds of variations to this, but as a general rule, remember two things for women:
· When I talk about “l(fā)istening” to her, what I’m really telling you is to prioritize her in your life. Be mindful of what she needs (there are books on the subject — its range is that broad) and make sure you give significant parts of your time to meeting them. I’m assuming a healthy relationship where she already does this for you. This reminds and assures her she is important to you; that you care about her.

對(duì)男人和女人來(lái)說(shuō)，打動(dòng)對(duì)方真的沒(méi)那么難。只是似乎很難記住的一點(diǎn)是，你是想要給她留下好印象的那個(gè)人，她心里想的和你所做的并不一樣；你做的事情并沒(méi)有讓她有被愛(ài)包圍的感覺(jué)
盡管具體情況有所不同，但對(duì)于女人來(lái)說(shuō)，這里有兩條通用法則：
1、當(dāng)我說(shuō)到“傾聽(tīng)”她的時(shí)候，我真正要告訴你的是要在你的生活中優(yōu)先考慮她。注意她需要什么（有一些關(guān)于這個(gè)主題的書(shū)，范圍很廣），并確保你將大部分時(shí)間用于滿(mǎn)足這些需求。我假設(shè)你和她已經(jīng)建立了穩(wěn)定的關(guān)系。這向她表明并且保證了她對(duì)你來(lái)說(shuō)很重要，你很關(guān)心她。

· Bring her personalized gifts from time to time. It’s not about materialism, it’s about small acts that demonstrate she was in your thoughts while you were away from her. Flowers don’t cut it. Neither do chocolates. Do get her these things from time to time, but these are not personalized. Practical things can be okay (be careful — a vacuum cleaner is a bad idea); I mean something like say a dash-mounted holder for her sunglasses in her favorite color. Her favorite bit of confectionery which is only available from one store on the far side of town that you just happened to be passing and remembered she loved this delicacy.
If you are starting to think, “Wow, that’s sounds like a lot of work”, well, welcome to healthy, satisfying adult relationships 101.
Remember, some women will be quite different. But again, if you are talking to her, and listening, she will let you know what will push her “Happy and Contented” buttons.
She might be the most independent, strong woman in the world. But your relationship with her should be seen as a garden that needs tending. How you do that and how much time it takes will depend on what’s planted, but all gardens require your time, attention, and care.
If you make a good woman happy, she’ll make you ecstatic.
And if she doesn’t, have a talk with her. And if she still doesn’t, respect yourself enough to go find a woman who will.

2、不時(shí)送她一個(gè)個(gè)性化的禮物。這與物質(zhì)主義無(wú)關(guān)，而是一個(gè)可以證明就算你們不在一起她也在你的腦海里的小舉動(dòng)?；ê颓煽肆Χ疾皇侵攸c(diǎn)。這些都不是個(gè)性化的。可以送一些實(shí)用的東西（要注意，吸塵器是個(gè)壞主意）；我的意思是說(shuō)，比如說(shuō)一個(gè)裝在儀表盤(pán)上可以用來(lái)放太陽(yáng)鏡的支架，而且是她最喜歡的顏色。又比如說(shuō)是她最喜歡的糖果，該糖果卻只在鎮(zhèn)的另一邊的一家商店有售，你剛好路過(guò)并且想起來(lái)她喜歡這種美味。
如果你開(kāi)始想，“哇，聽(tīng)起來(lái)這是一個(gè)很大的工程”，那么，歡迎你已經(jīng)建立了健康的、令人滿(mǎn)意的成人關(guān)系。
記住，有些女人會(huì)完全不同。但是，在你和她說(shuō)話(huà)的時(shí)候，注意傾聽(tīng)，她會(huì)讓你知道怎樣才能按下她 “快樂(lè)和滿(mǎn)足”的按鈕。
她可能是世界上最獨(dú)立、最堅(jiān)強(qiáng)的女人。但你和她的關(guān)系應(yīng)該被看作是一個(gè)需要照料的花園。你怎么做，花多少時(shí)間取決于種了什么，但是所有的花園都需要你的時(shí)間，注意力和關(guān)心。
如果你讓一個(gè)好女人開(kāi)心，她也會(huì)讓你欣喜若狂。
如果她沒(méi)有這么做，跟她談?wù)?。如果她還沒(méi)有這么做，那就尊重自己，去找一個(gè)會(huì)讓你開(kāi)心的女人。
David Antonio, lives in Luton, Bedfordshire, UK住在英國(guó)貝德福德郡的盧頓

Two men stood at the bar discussing the attractiveness of a young woman who was sitting with a girlfriend about 20 feet away. Finally, after about 15 minutes, the obxt of their attention walked up to the bartender and requested a martini. The shy one had called “dibs,” but said nothing as they stood nearly two feet apart. Finally, after a painfully silent minute and a half, she accepted her drink and walked back to her table.
“Why didn’t you say anything?” the good-looking 30-something asked his well-intentioned buddy. “I didn’t want to give her a line,” he said. His friend shook his head and laughed, “Man, you have no game. You have anti-game. All you need to do is toss a line out and get in, then you tell them what they want to hear. It’s 80 percent effective, I tell you.” I laughed loud enough for them to hear me. The playboy took it as an invitation, the shy one stood there with a look of gratitude on his face. We then spent the next hour discussing what really impresses a woman. At the end of the conversation, only one of the men walked out with a phone number.
It wasn’t the one with “game.” The nice guy walked over and said hello and asked me to join them. This list is, in part, a result of the conversation.

兩個(gè)男人站在吧臺(tái)前討論一個(gè)年輕女子的魅力，這個(gè)年輕女子和一個(gè)女性朋友坐在20英尺遠(yuǎn)的地方。最后，大約15分鐘后，他們的關(guān)注對(duì)象走到調(diào)酒師那里，要了一杯馬提尼。內(nèi)向的那個(gè)男人先給她點(diǎn)了，但兩人站在一起幾乎兩英尺遠(yuǎn)，什么也沒(méi)說(shuō)。最后，在痛苦地沉默了一分鐘半后，她接受了他的酒，然后走回了她的桌子。
“你為什么什么都不說(shuō)？”30多歲的帥哥好心問(wèn)他的哥們?！拔也幌虢o她打電話(huà)?！彼f(shuō)。他的朋友搖了搖頭，笑道：“伙計(jì)，你要做的就是要到聯(lián)系方式接近她們，然后跟她們講一些她們想聽(tīng)的東西。我告訴你，會(huì)有百分之八十的成功率?！蔽倚Φ煤艽舐暎齻兌寄苈?tīng)到我的聲音。那位花花公子把這視為了邀請(qǐng)，內(nèi)向的那個(gè)男人仍然站在那里，臉上帶著感激的表情。接下來(lái)的一個(gè)小時(shí)，我們討論了給女人留下深刻印象的最好辦法是什么。談話(huà)結(jié)束時(shí)，只有一個(gè)人要到了電話(huà)號(hào)碼。
那個(gè)不錯(cuò)的家伙走過(guò)來(lái)打招呼，讓我加入他們。以下內(nèi)容在某種程度上是這次對(duì)話(huà)的結(jié)果。

1. Act Like an Adult:
This is such a big one, guys. Let’s first discuss what is not acting like an adult. Basically, it’s doing anything a 13-year-old girl would do.This includes, but is not limited to: ignoring texts, ending texts with “!!!” or “?!”, throwing tantrums, calling names and making statements to which “I know you are, but what am I?” could be accurately applied.
2. Make a Decision:
Wishy-washy is not decisive. Decisive is secure. Women like secure.
3. Think Things Through and Have a Plan:
Throwing caution to the wind is fun when you’re booking a weekend getaway, not when you’re looking at your future.
4. Have an Opinion About Things:
Just recognize that it’s just an opinion and allow room for the opinions of others. Especially hers. Especially in front of other people.
5. Be Transparent:
If you want to see her, say so. If it’s just a booty call, say so. If you want a relationship, say so. If you’re not sure what you want, leave her alone.

1、表現(xiàn)得像個(gè)成年人：
伙計(jì)們，這真是個(gè)大問(wèn)題。讓我們先來(lái)討論什么是不像成年人的行為?；旧?，這意味著做任何13歲女孩會(huì)做的事情。包括但不限于：忽略文本，以“！”或者“？！”作為一句話(huà)的結(jié)尾；大發(fā)脾氣；點(diǎn)名道姓，以及說(shuō)一些類(lèi)似于“我知道你是誰(shuí)，但我是誰(shuí)？”之類(lèi)的話(huà)。
2、做出決定：
猶猶豫豫，一點(diǎn)也不果斷。果斷意味著安全。女人喜歡安全。
3、仔細(xì)考慮并制定計(jì)劃：
當(dāng)你在計(jì)劃周末度假時(shí)，把謹(jǐn)慎拋諸腦后無(wú)可厚非，但展望未來(lái)的時(shí)候可不能這樣。
4、對(duì)事物要有看法：
只要認(rèn)識(shí)到這只是一種意見(jiàn)，尤其是在別人面前需要給她的意見(jiàn)留出空間。
5、直截了當(dāng)：
如果你想見(jiàn)她，就說(shuō)出來(lái)。如果僅只是想玩玩，也說(shuō)出來(lái)。如果你想談戀愛(ài)，同樣還是說(shuō)出來(lái)。如果你不確定你想要什么，請(qǐng)別煩她。

6. Be as Supportive and Proud of Her Career As You Are Yours:
Believe me, this will set you apart.
7. When Having Sex With Her...
Focus on more than just recreating the porn video you just watched and do that amazing thing you do much slower.
8. Bring Her Flowers:
Do this on days that are not her birthday, your anniversary or one on which you screwed up. Better yet, screw the flowers. Write her a letter.
9. Give Good Eye Contact:
Seriously, it works like giving her two glasses of wine.
10. Invite Her Out:
Ask her if there is any place that she’d like to go or if you can make the plans. Then make some great ones and be on time.
11. When You Ask How Her Day Was...
Pay attention to her response. Listen to it and ask if you can help before you start telling her what to do.
12. You Know What Your Mother Said?
It was rude.

6、對(duì)她的事業(yè)給予支持并為此感到自豪，就像對(duì)待你自己的事業(yè)一樣：
相信我，這會(huì)讓你與眾不同。
7、.......。
8、給她送花：
不要只知道在她的生日、你們的周年紀(jì)念日或者你犯錯(cuò)的日子里才送花。更好的做法是，與其送花，還不如給她寫(xiě)封信。
9、進(jìn)行良好的眼神交流：
說(shuō)真的，這就像給她兩杯酒。
10、邀請(qǐng)她出去：
問(wèn)她是否有她想去的地方，或者你可以制定計(jì)劃。然后做一些很棒的事情，記得要準(zhǔn)時(shí)。
11、當(dāng)你問(wèn)她今天過(guò)得怎么樣
注意她的反應(yīng)。在你開(kāi)始告訴她該怎么做之前，先聽(tīng)一聽(tīng)，問(wèn)一下你是否能幫上忙。
12、你知道你媽媽怎么說(shuō)的嗎？
這很沒(méi)禮貌。

13. Ask Her to Dance:
Bonus points if you’re alone in your apartment.
14. Unless It a Threat to Your Life or the Life Of Someone You Love, Handle Your S%$ Like Nothing Can Break You.
Not because you’re not vulnerable, but because S%#@ happens and you’re smart and strong enough to deal with life.
15. Stay Quiet and Calm When You Want to Yell and Scream.
Do you really want to look like a teething 2-year-old?
16. Treat her the way you would want a man to treat your daughter.
Would you want a man to start sending or asking for body shots as soon as he got her number?
17. Give her the benefit of the doubt.
Especially when you least think she deserves it.
18. Trust her.
Don’t assume friendships with men mean she can be stolen from you, wants to make you jealous or doesn’t respect you.

13、請(qǐng)她跳舞：
如果只有你一個(gè)人在公寓里，可以加分。
14、除非它威脅到你或你所愛(ài)的人的生命，否則處理好你的私事，就像什么都不能傷害你一樣。
不是因?yàn)槟悴灰资艿絺?，而是因?yàn)槭虑橐呀?jīng)發(fā)生了，你需要有足夠的智慧和力量來(lái)處理它。
15、當(dāng)你想大喊大叫時(shí)，保持安靜和冷靜。
你真的想看起來(lái)像個(gè)2歲的孩子嗎？
16、像對(duì)待你女兒那樣對(duì)待她
你想讓一個(gè)男人在拿到她的電話(huà)號(hào)碼后，就開(kāi)始發(fā)消息給她要她的裸照嗎？
17、姑且相信她。
尤其是當(dāng)你覺(jué)得她至少配得上這樣被對(duì)待的時(shí)候。
18、相信她。
不要以為她和其他男人的友誼意味著你會(huì)被挖墻腳，也不要覺(jué)得她想讓你嫉妒或者不尊重你。

19. If you’re going to end it, end it clearly, respectfully and with dignity. Don’t play the “I need time” game. If, in time, you want her back, come back and see if she still wants you and go from there.
20. Call When You Say You Will Call, be where you say you will be, do what you say you will do.
Enough said.
21. Know when — and how — to apologize.
Don’t be sorry she felt that way, be sorry you did it.
22. Use Your Words Wisely: Communicate effectively. Clarify misunderstandings. Say “I love you” and “I am sorry” and “I will call you” only when you mean it.
23. When She Get’s Emotional, Don’t Do Any of the Following:
Mention anything having to do with any time of month, refer to her as a “nag” (or worse), try and “fix” it, tell her she “should not” feel that way or respond with any statement that shows that you have it worse than she does.
24. Be Respectful, Even When Mad. Even when ending it. Even after you have ended it. Even if she will never know.
25. Know the difference between opinion and fact.
Bonus Points: If you love her, fight for her, not with her.

19、如果你要結(jié)束這段感情，就干凈利落地結(jié)束，保持尊重和尊嚴(yán)。
別玩“我需要時(shí)間”的游戲。如果有一天你想讓她回來(lái)，回來(lái)看看她是否還需要你，然后就離開(kāi)。
20、在你承諾好要打電話(huà)的時(shí)間打電話(huà)，去你承諾好要去的地方，做你承諾好會(huì)做的事。
這就足夠了。
21、知道何時(shí)以及如何道歉。
別為她的感受感到遺憾，要為你所做的感到抱歉。
22、明智地使用你的語(yǔ)言：保持有效地溝通，澄清誤解。只有在你認(rèn)真的時(shí)候，才說(shuō)“我愛(ài)你”、“對(duì)不起”、“我會(huì)打電話(huà)給你”之類(lèi)的話(huà)。
23、當(dāng)她情緒激動(dòng)時(shí)，不要做下列任何事情：
提及任何本月要做的事情；說(shuō)她“嘮叨”（或更糟的情況）；試著“糾正”她；告訴她“不應(yīng)該”有這種感覺(jué)，或者用任何表明你做得比她更糟糕的陳述來(lái)回應(yīng)。
24、即使是在生氣的時(shí)候也要有禮貌。
25、知道意見(jiàn)和事實(shí)的區(qū)別。
加分項(xiàng)：如果你愛(ài)她，為她而奮斗，而不只是和她在一起