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Why are some people always single?

為什么有些人總是單身？

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Carol Ward
Aww, keep trying if that’s what you want and you can cope with the rejection. It’s 50/50. 50% rejection or 50% a positive result. Tell yourself what’s the worst that can happen. It’s a bit like applying for a job, it can be soul destroying. I remember a girl I worked with she was not very pretty but she was the most kindest beautiful person ever! Let your personality shine through, good looks can be shallow.

噢，繼續(xù)努力，如果這是你想要的，而且你能應(yīng)付拒絕。這是50對(duì)50。50%的拒絕或50%的積極結(jié)果。事前先告訴自己可能發(fā)生的最壞情況是什么。這有點(diǎn)像申請(qǐng)工作，它可以摧毀一個(gè)人的靈魂。我記得和我一起工作的一個(gè)女孩，她并不漂亮，但她是最善良美麗的人！她是我的朋友。讓你的個(gè)性閃耀，好的外表就不那么重要了。

Thomas Hamelain
“but love discussing world events, ancient history, literature, languages, and physics”
That's what you've got ! Your brain is your most valuable asset. And among your subjects of interest you've got enough material to learn and explore to keep you going until the end of your life and beyond…
I am quite an introvert loner and have been both long term single and in long term relationships and trust me, relationships are way overrated.
We tend to idealise what we don't have but the grass is not necessary greener for couples.
In fact you're sparing yourself all the drama and irrational bullshits that romantic relationships usually brings along. Instead you can dedicate all your mental energy on yourself and what you really like.
As for the virgin thing, if its something that bothers you, go and meet a hooker and get this issue out of the way ^. ^

"但喜歡討論世界大事、古代歷史、文學(xué)、語言和物理學(xué)"
這就是你所擁有的! 你的大腦是你最寶貴的資產(chǎn)。在你感興趣的主題中，你有足夠的材料來學(xué)習(xí)和探索，讓你一直到你的生命結(jié)束和超越......
我是一個(gè)相當(dāng)內(nèi)向的獨(dú)行俠，曾經(jīng)長期單身，也有過長期的關(guān)系，相信我，兩性的關(guān)系被高估了。
我們傾向于將我們沒有的東西理想化，但對(duì)已經(jīng)成為夫婦的人來說，草不一定是更綠的。
事實(shí)上，你是在為自己省去所有的戲劇性和非理性的廢話，而浪漫的關(guān)系通常會(huì)帶來這些廢話。相反，你可以把你所有的精神能量奉獻(xiàn)給你自己和你真正喜歡的東西。
至于還是個(gè)處的事情，如果它困擾著你，那就去找一個(gè)妓女，把這個(gè)問題解決掉吧^。^

Bella Freeman
Exactly right! I am in the ninetieth percentile for extroversion, but I will be alone for the rest of my life. Personality just doesn't matter.

非常正確！我的外向率為90%，但我的余生將獨(dú)自一人。個(gè)性本身并不重要。

Louisa Reynolds
It was really interesting to read this. I do not consider 5 ft 7 as overly short for a man, and I am a 5ft 9 woman. Also, I do not see why people would laugh at the fact that you are a virgin, although I am not going to make out that I relate to the majority of people. People seem to see losing their virginity as a box to be ticked. Just because someone has had a lot of sex doesn't mean to say they even enjoyed it particularly! It could well have been with someone they regretted doing such an intimate act with or the overall experience may not have been that enjoyable for them. There are far more important things in life to have done in my opinion, such as a steady job that you mentioned and other life skills. I think there are far more people out there who are virgins at older ages than we believe there to be simply because it seems to be a taboo subject that nobody wants to admit to. There's a lot more I could say about this but I will leave it at that.

讀到這篇回復(fù)真的很有意思。我不認(rèn)為5英尺7英寸對(duì)一個(gè)男人來說是過矮的，我是一個(gè)5英尺9英寸的女人。此外，我不明白為什么人們會(huì)嘲笑你是個(gè)處，盡管我不打算說我與多少人有過關(guān)系。人們似乎把失去童貞看作是一個(gè)需要打勾的盒子。僅僅因?yàn)槟橙擞泻芏嘈孕袨?，并不意味著他們特別享受性行為！這很可能是與一個(gè)他們后悔做這種親密行為的人，或者整體經(jīng)驗(yàn)可能對(duì)他們來說并不那么愉快。在我看來，生活中還有更重要的事情要做，比如你提到的一份穩(wěn)定的工作和其他生活技能。我認(rèn)為有更多的人在年老時(shí)還是處，這比我們認(rèn)為的要多得多，只是因?yàn)檫@似乎是一個(gè)禁忌話題，沒有人愿意承認(rèn)。關(guān)于這個(gè)問題我還可以說很多，但我就不多說了。

Sam Tyler
Dude, this is bullshit.
For a start, 5-ft 7-in is not that short. I think the US average is 5-ft 9-in and in the UK 5-ft 10-in for a man of your generation. Taller men are generally more attractive, but the biggest womaniser I know it's 5-ft 7 tall.
And if you are working out a lot and in really good shape, that is very attractive. This really boosts how people perceive you. I worked with the guy that people described as good looking, when I met him, he looks like a bulldog but just had a muscular body.
Good looking people will always have it much easier in life, anyone that says otherwise is a delusional fool. People are drawn to pretty people.
But I honestly believe so much is down to how someone acts. Most of the time, when I see a really hot girl, the guy is hot too. But actually quite often I see a gorgeous girl with a little runty guy. He must have something about him and I'm pretty sure that he won't sit around moaning about how no one flirts with him.

老兄，這是胡說八道。
首先，5英尺7英寸并不那么矮。我想美國的平均水平是5英尺9英寸，而在英國，你們這一代的男人是5英尺10英寸。高大的男人通常更有吸引力，但我所知道的最大的花花公子是5英尺7英寸高。
如果你經(jīng)常鍛煉，而且身材非常好，這就非常有吸引力。這真的會(huì)提高人們對(duì)你的看法。我和一個(gè)被人們形容為好看的人一起工作，當(dāng)我見到他時(shí)，他看起來像一只斗牛犬，但只是有一個(gè)肌肉發(fā)達(dá)的身體。
長得好的人在生活中總是容易得多，任何否認(rèn)的人都是妄想的傻瓜。人們會(huì)被漂亮的人吸引。
但說實(shí)話，我相信很多東西是取決于某人的行為方式。大多數(shù)時(shí)候，當(dāng)我看到一個(gè)非常性感的女孩時(shí)，她身邊那個(gè)男人也很性感。但實(shí)際上，我經(jīng)?？吹揭粋€(gè)漂亮的女孩和一個(gè)矮小的男人在一起。他一定有自己的特點(diǎn)，而且我非常肯定他不會(huì)坐在那里抱怨沒有人和他調(diào)情。

Alexander Inkel
Your conclusion is false. Speaking as a male with good facial structure and a good body, relationships don’t just click or work out easily. Sure I see women who are attracted, but that initial attraction does not translate to success. A lot of it is how much social value you have. This I find comes down to your confidence, self image, and beliefs you hold over your self regarding social interactions, success with women, humor, etc. I’m a pretty introverted and abstract minded person, so the ways I communicate with people often aren’t very standard, so dating is strange. You really have to find people you just mix with I think.

你的結(jié)論是錯(cuò)誤的。作為一個(gè)具有良好面部結(jié)構(gòu)和身材的男性來說，人際關(guān)系并非你說的那么容易。當(dāng)然，我看到有一些被吸引的女性，但這種最初的吸引力并不能轉(zhuǎn)化為成功。它在很大程度上是你有多少社會(huì)價(jià)值。我發(fā)現(xiàn)這歸結(jié)于你的自信、自我形象，以及你對(duì)自己在社會(huì)交往方面的信念，對(duì)女性的成功，幽默等等。我是一個(gè)相當(dāng)內(nèi)向和抽象思維的人，所以我與人溝通的方式往往不是很標(biāo)準(zhǔn)，所以約會(huì)進(jìn)行得很奇怪。我認(rèn)為你真的必須找到你正好能與之交融的人。

Malik Hughes
you may or may not have ASD, your behavior resembles mine and I know I have ASD

你可能有也可能沒有自閉癥，但你的行為很像我的，我知道我有自閉癥

Bella Freeman
Too many unattractive people are erroneously diagnosed with autism. There are other reasons why people get rejected.

太多的無吸引力的人被錯(cuò)誤地診斷出患有自閉癥。人們被拒絕的原因還有其他的原因。

Richard Shirk
The question has so many answers and none of them will ever be the same. Different circumstances and experiences guide folks in their decisions.
I use to think that the “ American dream “ was the basis of relationships and marriage.
The age I grew up in saw people stay married for many years. Relationships also were pretty much permanent.
In this age, a lot of “ superficial “ folks walk the earth. They want things ready made and don't want to make the effort to work things out when they go wrong.
Being single is a “ CHOICE" and not a “ DISEASE". I have read relationship books by different authors, but I can't seem to find authors from my generation with worthwhile experiences to draw from.
Relationships are like Google. You look on dating sites and the profiles are a joke.
It just seems to me that it is a lot of “ work" to do relationships and folks just are not willing to go through emotional pain and suffering for a chance to be happy.
Is it worth it? For me, it is not, so I will stay single ( unless something really changes my mind). I don't see a relationship in my future PERIOD???
Please note this is my opinion and experience speaking and some may disagree. There is this song I remember called “ PEOPLE MAKE THE WORLD GO ROUND". I will just leave it at that……

這個(gè)問題有很多答案，沒有一個(gè)會(huì)是相同的。不同的環(huán)境和經(jīng)驗(yàn)指導(dǎo)著人們的決定。
我曾經(jīng)認(rèn)為，"美國夢(mèng)"是關(guān)系和婚姻的基礎(chǔ)。
在我成長的年代，人們的婚姻生活會(huì)持續(xù)很多年。關(guān)系也幾乎是永久性的。
在這個(gè)時(shí)代，有很多"膚淺"的人在地球上行走。他們想要現(xiàn)成的東西，不想在出問題時(shí)努力解決。
單身是一種"選擇"，而不是一種"疾病"。我讀過不同作者的關(guān)于兩性關(guān)系的書，但我似乎找不到我們這一代人的作者有值得借鑒的經(jīng)驗(yàn)。
關(guān)系就像谷歌。你在約會(huì)網(wǎng)站上瀏覽，而那些個(gè)人資料就是個(gè)笑話。
在我看來，處理關(guān)系需要很多"工作"，人們不愿意為了一個(gè)幸福的機(jī)會(huì)而經(jīng)歷情感上的痛苦和折磨。
這值得嗎？對(duì)我來說，不值得，所以我將保持單身（除非真的有事情改變我的想法）。我不認(rèn)為我的未來有什么關(guān)系，永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)。
請(qǐng)注意這是我的觀點(diǎn)和經(jīng)驗(yàn)，有些人可能不同意。我記得有一首歌叫"人讓世界運(yùn)轉(zhuǎn)"。就這樣，不說了......

Evelyn Arden
How do you explain then that despite me getting compliments from people and being hit on and told that I'm a kind and smart individual, I've never managed to get a guy to take me to an actual date or gotten in a relationship with a man?
People perceiving you attractive apparently doesn't mean anything or the fact, that there's obxtively speaking nothing wrong with your personality either. We all know people who have no issues to attract the opposite sex, regardless of how they look, behave or what their personality is like.
They seem to find relationships with an ease, are never single very long periods of time and they're showered with sexual and romantic interest and attention. Others are those, who never attract anyone despite many positive attributes. I find this mysterious and odd, I've never managed to find any rational explanation to this phenomenon. These favored and lucky people typically also get exactly the person they desire for a relationship and the other person reciprocates their romantic feelings.

那么你如何解釋，盡管我得到了人們的贊美，被人搭訕，并被告知我是一個(gè)善良和聰明的人，但我從未設(shè)法讓一個(gè)男人帶我去參加真正的約會(huì)或與一個(gè)男人建立關(guān)系？
人們認(rèn)為你有吸引力顯然并不意味著什么，或者說，客觀地說，你的個(gè)性也沒有什么問題。我們都知道有些人在吸引異性方面沒有問題，不管他們的外表、行為或性格如何。
他們似乎很容易找到關(guān)系，從來不會(huì)長期單身，而且他們會(huì)受到性和浪漫的興趣和關(guān)注。還有一些人，盡管有許多積極的屬性，但卻從未吸引過任何人。我覺得這很神秘，也很奇怪，我從來沒能找到對(duì)這種現(xiàn)象的任何合理解釋。這些受寵的幸運(yùn)兒通常也能準(zhǔn)確地得到他們渴望的人的關(guān)系，而對(duì)方也會(huì)回應(yīng)他們的浪漫情感。

Michael Jones
A guy told me a long time ago, you've got to play the cards you've been dealt. It sounds like you're self-aware, so work on the things that you can change. You aren't born with social skills, you learn them through practice.

很久以前，一個(gè)人告訴我，你必須玩好你所拿到的牌。聽起來你是有自我意識(shí)的，所以在你能改變的事情上下功夫。你不是生來就有社交技巧的，你要通過練習(xí)來學(xué)習(xí)它們。

Ble Tolife
Omg i can relate to this beside the fact i dont work and dont have a degree and i am 25 which make me feel more worthless

天啊，我跟你描述的一樣，除了我沒有工作，我沒有學(xué)位，我25歲，這讓我覺得自己更加毫無價(jià)值

Biboum Joelle Ojong
you are 1m 70 and you think you are short?

你一米七覺得自己很矮？

Andrew Ang
I love your answer, harsh truth, but truth nevertheless.

我喜歡你的回答，嚴(yán)酷的真理，但還是真理。

Kyrst Mitch
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

美麗只存在于觀察者的眼中

Oyez Delta
idk man i’ve seen some nightmarish looking guys with partners/spouses. maybe there just isn’t anyone you connect with.

我不懂，伙計(jì)，我見過一些長得看起來很可怕的人，但他們有伴侶/配偶。也許只是你不夠主動(dòng)。

Sofia Safwa
First of all you arent short! 170 isnt short !! And I am a 172 female.
Second , if u have good shape.. then u r somewhat attractive. I just cant thing k of an “ugly “ man. its beyond me.
Maybe u go to somewhat young and pretty ladies. Young people have their ideals. U cant blame them. But if more unfortunate human beings want company they have to settle. I guess.

首先，你并不矮! 170歲并不矮！! 我是一個(gè)172的女性。
第二，如果你有好的身材......那么你就有一定的吸引力。我只是無法想象一個(gè)"丑陋"的男人，我無法想象。
也許你去找的是一些年輕漂亮的女士。年輕人有他們的理想。你不能責(zé)怪他們。但如果更多不幸的人想有個(gè)伴，他們就必須妥協(xié)。我想。

Anonymous
As a 31-year-old man who has never ever been in a relationship, it comes down to several reasons.
It seems that I’m physically unattractive to women. I go to the gym, eat pretty well, dress well etc. I’m not overweight or anything like that. But I’m short, went completely bald by the time I was 25 - no, shaving your head will not magically turn you into Vin Diesel - and got some congenital postural abnormalities I can do nothing about. I’m almost the opposite of “tall, dark and handsome”.
I have very nerdy interests that most people - which obviously includes women - find either boring or scary. I enjoy spending my time on things such as quantum mechanics, neuroscience, and macroeconomics. At the same time, I dislike small talk centered around TV shows, celebrities, food etc.
From high school on I’ve spent my entire life in male-dominated environments (STEM) where women are hard to find. The few that exist are all taken or not interested.
I tried online dating, but as an OkCupid user I’ve only become more disillusioned. It seems that the vast majority of women aged 25–35 online care about little else than traveling around the world all the time, eating fancy foods, taking snapshots for their Instagram profiles, and listing demands that I have to meet to be worthy of talking to them. Out of several hundreds of profiles, I sent what I believe were kind, thoughtful, personalized messages (no generic “hi there” stuff, nor anything needy or creepy) to five women that appeared to be at somewhat intellectually-inclined. None replied. I don’t blame them - I’m not one of those guys who think that women owe them something - but that about sums it up for me.
In summary, I’m always single because I’m not interesting to the opposite sex, and because I have a very hard time finding women I could connect with even if they were interested.

作為一個(gè)31歲了從來沒有談過戀愛的男人，我歸結(jié)為幾個(gè)原因。
1.似乎我在身體上對(duì)女性沒有吸引力。我去健身房，吃得很好，穿得很好等等。我沒有超重或任何類似的情況。但我很矮，25歲時(shí)就完全禿了--不，剃光頭不會(huì)神奇地把你變成文-迪塞爾--而且有一些先天性的姿勢(shì)異常，我對(duì)此無能為力。我?guī)缀跏?"高大、深沉和英俊"的反面。
2.我有非常書呆子的興趣，大多數(shù)人--這里顯然包括女性--都覺得無聊或可怕。我喜歡把時(shí)間花在量子力學(xué)、神經(jīng)科學(xué)和宏觀經(jīng)濟(jì)學(xué)等方面。同時(shí)，我不喜歡以電視節(jié)目、名人、食物等為中心的閑談。
3.從高中開始，我的一生都在以男性為主的環(huán)境（STEM）中度過，那里很難找到女性。為數(shù)不多的女性都是有主的，或者不感興趣。
4.我嘗試過網(wǎng)上約會(huì)，但作為一個(gè)OkCupid的用戶，我只會(huì)變得更加失望。似乎絕大多數(shù)25-35歲的女性在網(wǎng)上關(guān)心的是，除了一直在世界各地旅行，吃高級(jí)食品，為她們的Instagram個(gè)人資料拍快照，以及列出我必須滿足的要求才值得與她們交談之外，幾乎沒有別的。在幾百份資料中，我向五位看起來還有點(diǎn)智商的女性發(fā)送了我認(rèn)為是親切、周到、個(gè)性化的信息（沒有通用的"你好"，也沒有任何需要或令人毛骨悚然的東西）。沒有人回復(fù)。我不怪他們--我不是那種認(rèn)為女人欠他們東西的人--但這對(duì)我來說是個(gè)總結(jié)。
總之，我一直是單身，因?yàn)槲覍?duì)異性不感興趣，也因?yàn)槲液茈y找到對(duì)我感興趣也能與我聯(lián)系的女人。

Emi Logane
Women probably aren't interested in you because you give off the vibe of low confidence and feel like you don't stand a chance. Women aren't shallow and only care about “tall dark and handsome men”, women want someone who is confident and open and friendly and approachable, who isn't scared to strike up a conversation and take a chance. Who knows, maybe the 25 year old very attractive girl sitting at the end of the bar actually loves quantum physics, you've just cultivatated a stereotype that all women like her will not be interested in you and are only interested in Instagram and selfies, and it definitely shows. Open your mind and stop portraying the image of “no women will like me because I'm short and bald and like science”, start coming across as “so what if im short and bald? I'm smart and interesting and not afraid to talk to women” type of attitude. Your luck will eventually change. Low self esteem and wallowing in self defeat is a major turnoff, looks aren't everything, maybe your personality is the best part about you.

女人對(duì)你不感興趣，可能是因?yàn)槟憬o人的感覺是信心不足，覺得自己沒有機(jī)會(huì)。女人并不膚淺，只關(guān)心"高大黝黑的帥哥"，女人想要的是自信、開放、友好、平易近人的人，不害怕與人攀談，抓住機(jī)會(huì)。誰知道呢，也許坐在酒吧盡頭的那個(gè)25歲的非常有吸引力的女孩實(shí)際上喜歡量子物理學(xué)，你只是培養(yǎng)了一種刻板印象，認(rèn)為所有像她一樣的女人都不會(huì)對(duì)你感興趣，只對(duì)Instagram和自拍感興趣，這肯定會(huì)顯示出來。打開你的心扉，停止描繪"沒有女人會(huì)喜歡我，因?yàn)槲矣职侄d而且喜歡科學(xué)"的形象，開始表現(xiàn)為"如果我又矮又禿，那又怎樣？我很聰明，很有趣，不害怕和女人說話"的態(tài)度。你的運(yùn)氣最終會(huì)改變。低自尊和沉湎于自我挫敗是一個(gè)主要的障礙，外表不是一切，也許你的個(gè)性是你最好的部分。