女性擇偶時(shí)最看重的到底是什么？排在第一位的是……
從分手理由就可以看出人們?cè)诤跏裁础?/p>
Ta性格太差勁了，我說(shuō)什么Ta都跟我杠，拒絕溝通，不分手留著過(guò)年？
談之前不知道，相處起來(lái)才發(fā)現(xiàn)智力上有鴻溝，考慮問(wèn)題不在一個(gè)層面…...
可能是收入有差別吧，我倆消費(fèi)觀念相差太大……
但處對(duì)象可能又和找對(duì)象不是一回事。找的時(shí)候看臉，處起來(lái)又看性格。似乎，這是一個(gè)綜合決策過(guò)程。
What do you look for in a partner? It seems like an easy question, but if you're asked to break down what it is that attracts you to someone else, you might struggle to put your finger on it.
你找對(duì)象時(shí)看中什么？看似是個(gè)簡(jiǎn)單的問(wèn)題，但要是叫你掰開(kāi)來(lái)說(shuō)道說(shuō)道，你可能會(huì)犯難。
傳統(tǒng)的主流觀點(diǎn)認(rèn)為男性在尋找伴侶時(shí)比較看中的是外在條件，女性則比較傾向于非外在的部分。來(lái)自德國(guó)哥廷根大學(xué)的研究者們與經(jīng)期追蹤軟件提供商一道，開(kāi)展了一項(xiàng)針對(duì)來(lái)自180個(gè)國(guó)家的68000名女性的研究。
Dr. Tanja Gerlach, from the University of G?ttingen, said: “the survey is unique in that women from all over the world—across various sexual orientations and life phases—gave us rich insight into what matters most to them. This allows us to draw a very differentiated picture of women's preferences for long-term, and short-term relationships.”
來(lái)自哥廷根大學(xué)的Gerlach博士表示：“這項(xiàng)研究的獨(dú)特之處在于我們研究了世界各地，各個(gè)年齡階段，各種性取向的女性的擇偶要求。我們由此可以看到長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)也好短期也罷的戀愛(ài)關(guān)系中女性的擇偶偏好?！?/span>
研究發(fā)現(xiàn)：
"Kindness"?was the most important trait, with nearly 90 percent of women thinking it was a top priority.?
“善良體貼”是最重要的特質(zhì)，幾乎90%的女性都把它排在了第一位。
Attractiveness?was important, but it came secondary to personality traits like "supportiveness" and "intelligence."?
外在條件的確很重要，但是并沒(méi)有“會(huì)支持鼓勵(lì)人”以及“智力”這類特質(zhì)重要。
When asked about choosing a long-term mate, 46.1 percent of women of all sexual orientations said that a potential partner's desire?to parent?is very important.?
當(dāng)問(wèn)及長(zhǎng)期戀愛(ài)關(guān)系時(shí)，46.1%的受訪者，無(wú)論取向如何，都表示希望對(duì)方也會(huì)要小孩。
For both heterosexual and homosexual women,?an attractive smile and attractive eyes?were the most important physical features sought in a long-term partner.??
異性戀與同性戀女性都表示，長(zhǎng)期關(guān)系中，笑容和眼睛好看是最重要的外在條件。
Women in Colombia, Mexico and Brazil most frequently stated?education?was important, while women from countries like the U.K. and Denmark were less likely to find education important in a long-term partner.?
哥倫比亞、墨西哥、和巴西等國(guó)的受訪者最看重對(duì)方的教育水平。但英國(guó)和丹麥等國(guó)家的受訪者則認(rèn)為長(zhǎng)期關(guān)系中教育水平?jīng)]那么重要。
Virginia J. Vitzthum, professor of anthropology at Indiana University and the lead researcher on the project, said?kindness is "like gravity" — "essential but little-noticed until it's gone."?
印第安納大學(xué)人類學(xué)教授、該研究的首席研究者Virginia J. Vitzthum表示，“友好善良”這樣的特質(zhì)就像“地心引力”——“必不可少，而且直到消失了才會(huì)引起人們注意。”
"Given today's emphasis on looks and wealth, it may surprise you that kindness is a top desirable trait across the world. While it's fun and nice to feel gorgeous and sexy (and there's nothing wrong with that) the mistake is thinking these are the most important things," she said.
她還稱：“如今大家都看臉看錢，看到研究結(jié)果顯示‘善良體貼’是世界各地受訪者公認(rèn)的最重要特質(zhì)，還是有點(diǎn)驚訝。雖說(shuō)漂亮性感肯定是好事（追求外在肯定沒(méi)毛病），但是要是覺(jué)得它們是最重要的那就錯(cuò)了?！?/span>
Only 2.5 percent of women globally preferred a "very muscular" body type in a long-term partner, with "average" body-types being the most popular, with 44.8 percent of women choosing it. "Fit and athletic" body-types came in second place with 34.8 percent of the vote.
在找長(zhǎng)期伴侶時(shí)，全球只有2.5%的女性喜歡“肌肉虬結(jié)”的身材。最受歡迎的還是“中等”身材，投票占比44.8%。其次就是“薄肌且愛(ài)運(yùn)動(dòng)”，占比34.8%。
"This is the human brain unconsciously prioritizing what matters, and noticing physical 'imperfections' less," said Vitzthum. "Intrinsic goodness, and shared values, these are what drive real romance."
研究員Vitzthum還表示：“人類大腦會(huì)無(wú)意識(shí)地挑選最重要的特質(zhì)，而且會(huì)沒(méi)那么關(guān)注外在的瑕疵。內(nèi)在美，以及共同的價(jià)值觀，才是驅(qū)動(dòng)真正浪漫的力量?！?/span>
有人總結(jié)到：
Initial attraction is based on physical appearance. Relationship attraction is based on other factors.
外在美決定了一開(kāi)始的喜歡，維持戀愛(ài)關(guān)系則受到其他因素支配。
這有點(diǎn)類似于中國(guó)年輕人常說(shuō)的“始于顏值，終于人品”吧。
社交媒體上有過(guò)這樣一個(gè)排序：
1、顏值 2、身材 3、財(cái)力 4、智力 5、性格，總共五個(gè)指標(biāo)，請(qǐng)你把對(duì)戀人的期望按重要性從高到低排列。
點(diǎn)贊數(shù)最高的是54321，性格最重要，顏值好商量。
緊接著的兩個(gè)排序（54312和51324）也把性格排在了第一位，差別主要在對(duì)顏值和智力的取舍。
把智力排在最末的人聲稱：“蠢蠢的人應(yīng)該會(huì)好騙好哄”。但有人指出智力的缺陷可不是好騙好哄，而是真的會(huì)成為你的拖油瓶。
也有相當(dāng)數(shù)量的人直截了當(dāng)?shù)匕芽茨樑旁诘谝晃唬?span id="s0sssss00s" class="color-yellow-03">14523），這可能就是臉和腦子我都要吧。
你會(huì)怎么排序呢？留言告訴報(bào)報(bào)吧。
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