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Some of the most important truths in life don’t make sense on the surface, but once you get beneath it, the world will never look the same.
I noticed this the first time I fell in love. There was a girl in my high school class I liked a lot. Shoulder-long, brown hair, beautiful face, a heart-melting laugh, and eyes I could’ve stared into forever, or at least until the bell announced the next algebra session.
Like most high school kids, I thought I just needed to be nice and loving for her to reciprocate my feelings. Spoiler: It didn’t work. My advances got rejected more often than Mike Tyson’s credit card in 2003.
After another few similar incidents, I had enough. I stopped being a nice guy and started giving fewer fucks. I teased. I said mean things. I rejected the girls. And all of a sudden, I was drowning in female attention.
At first, I didn’t understand it, but later realized dating isn’t the only part of life with an inherent paradoxical truth.
Unfortunately, these are often hard to uncover because if you don’t understand them, it’s like flipping your kitchen switch to see your bedroom lights turn on. But it only works every second Wednesday during a full moon.
Yet, there’s also some good beneath all the confusion.
Once you get behind the mechanisms, you’ll understand life a lot better and will be able to navigate it with confidence instead of wrecking your ship on a cliff every two weeks without knowing why and how.
Here’s what I’ve learned about the paradoxical truths of life — may they open your eyes as much as they did mine.
生活中一些最重要的真理在表面上看起來毫無意義，但是一旦你深入其中，世界將不再是原來的樣子。
我第一次戀愛的時(shí)候就注意到了這一點(diǎn)，高中班上有一個(gè)女孩，我很喜歡，齊肩的棕色頭發(fā)，漂亮的臉蛋，令人心動的笑聲，還有一雙我可以永遠(yuǎn)盯著看的眼睛，至少可以一直凝視到下一次代數(shù)課的鈴聲響起。
像大多數(shù)高中生一樣，我以為我只要對她好，對她愛護(hù)，她就會回應(yīng)我的感情，（ 劇透：并沒啥卵用）我的求愛被拒絕的次數(shù)比2003年邁克泰森信用卡被拒次數(shù)還多。
又經(jīng)歷了幾次類似的事件后，我受夠了，我不再做個(gè)好人，少給予，說一些刻薄話，我拒絕了女孩，突然間，我被女性的關(guān)注淹沒了。
起初，我并不理解，但后來我意識到約會并不是生活中唯一的一部分，這是一個(gè)內(nèi)在的矛盾真理。
不幸的是，這些往往很難被發(fā)現(xiàn)，因?yàn)槿绻悴焕斫馑鼈儯拖翊蜷_廚房開關(guān)卻看到臥室的燈打開，而它只在滿月的第二個(gè)星期三有效一樣。
然而，盡管混亂而困惑，也有一些好處，一旦你了解了背后的機(jī)制，你就會更好地理解生活，并能自信地駕馭它，而不是每兩個(gè)星期在不知道為什么和如何的情況下將其毀掉。
這就是我所了解到的關(guān)于生活中的悖論真理——愿它們能讓你和我一樣開闊眼界。

You Succeed Not Despite Your Failures, but Because of Them
There’s a simple reason every successful person has failed hard before they became top dog. Without failure, success is impossible.
Jack Ma got rejected from KFC. Michael Jordan got kicked out of his high school basketball team. Elon Musk got ousted as CEO of his own company, had Paypal’s first product rated one of the ten worst ideas in business, and then promptly gout ousted again as CEO of Paypal while he was on honeymoon. Ouch.
Successful people aren’t successful because they failed so few times, but because they failed so many. Success comes from relentless improvement and failure is the best teacher.
Don’t be afraid to fail. The only bad thing about it is the narrative you still have in your head from school days when green checkmarks meant success and red crosses meant flipping burgers at McDonald’s.
The more you fail, the more you learn, and the more likely you are to succeed.
“The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried.”
— Stephen McCranie
# 成功并不回避失敗，而且正是因?yàn)槭∧悴懦晒?br>每一個(gè)成功人士在成為領(lǐng)導(dǎo)者之前都經(jīng)歷過艱難的失敗，原因很簡單：
沒有失敗，就不可能成功。
馬云被肯德基拒絕，邁克爾 · 喬丹被高中籃球隊(duì)開除了，埃隆 · 馬斯克被自己公司的免了CEO職位，Paypal 的第一款產(chǎn)品被評為商業(yè)十大最糟糕的創(chuàng)意之一，之后再次接手，馬斯克又一次被趕下了Paypal 首席執(zhí)行官的寶座，生艸。
成功人士之所以成功，不是因?yàn)樗麄兪〉拇螖?shù)太少，而是因?yàn)樗麄兪〉拇螖?shù)太多。
成功來自不斷的進(jìn)步，失敗是最好的老師，不要害怕失敗。
唯一不好的事情是你腦海中仍然有一個(gè)故事，那就是在學(xué)生時(shí)代，綠色的勾代表成功，紅色的叉代表去麥當(dāng)勞做漢堡。
失敗越多，學(xué)到的就越多，成功的可能性也就越大。
“大師失敗的次數(shù)比初學(xué)者嘗試的次數(shù)還要多。”
—— 斯蒂芬 · 麥克蘭
What Scares You Most Is Your Biggest Chance for a Better Life
Growth happens when you leave your comfort zone.
When I started dating, I was afraid of approaching women on the street since they could reject me. But once I did, my social skills and love life improved tremendously.
When I started my own coaching business, I was afraid to post on Instagram because people I knew from high school could judge me. But once I mustered the courage, I stopped worrying about what others thought of me and found a highly engaging community.
When I disagreed with others, I was afraid of apologizing and admitting mistakes because my ego didn’t take them well. But once I did, my relationships improved by a truckload.
I know this shit is hard. It took me more than 20 tries to first walk up to a woman and stammer a simple “Hi.” But growth is about leaving your comfort zone — and your fear is a great indicator for where it ends.
“What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do.”
— Tim Ferriss
# 你最害怕的是什么，什么就是你過上更好的生活的最大機(jī)會
當(dāng)你離開你的舒適區(qū)時(shí)，你才會成長。
當(dāng)我開始約會時(shí)，我害怕在街上接近女性，因?yàn)樗齻兛赡軙芙^我，但一旦我這樣做了，我的社交技巧和愛情生活都得到了極大的改善。
當(dāng)我開始自己的教練業(yè)務(wù)時(shí)，我害怕在 Instagram 上發(fā)布信息，因?yàn)槲业母咧型瑢W(xué)們會對我評頭論足，但一旦我鼓起勇氣，我就不再擔(dān)心別人對我的看法，我找到了一個(gè)高度參與的社區(qū)。
當(dāng)我與別人意見不一致時(shí)，我害怕道歉和承認(rèn)錯(cuò)誤，因?yàn)槲业淖宰鹦膹?qiáng)，無法接受，但一旦我這樣做了，我的人際關(guān)系就得到了極大的改善。
我知道這種事很難，我試了20多次才敢走到一個(gè)女人面前，結(jié)結(jié)巴巴地說了一句簡單的 "嗨"，成長意味著離開你的舒適區(qū)，而你的恐懼是一個(gè)很好的指示標(biāo)，告訴你成長的終點(diǎn)在哪里。
"我們最害怕做的事情，通常就是我們最需要做的事情。"
—— 蒂姆·菲利斯
The More You Can Have It, the Less You’ll Want It
My girlfriend is into luxury goods. I can’t tell a Chanel handbag from an Aldi one, but I’m still flabbergasted every time she shows me something.
Some of the handbags and watches sell for as much as a few million Euro, the equivalent of a Malibu beach front villa. How in the world do they get people to pay these prizes? One word: Scarcity.
You value things more when they’re less available. Subconsciously, your brain tells you this must be something special, so you better get your piece of the cake before it’s gone. It’s why manufacturers like Prada rather burn their handbags instead of selling them at a discount — it keeps supply low and perceived value high.
Life becomes a lot easier when you know about this trick. Not only can you spot attempts to lure you with limited offers, but it also explains why being too available kills sexual attraction, and saying yes to every request dues your time and work.
“Nowhere is water so beautiful as in the desert for nowhere else is it so scarce.”
— Edward Abbey
# 越是能擁有，越是不想擁有
我女朋友對奢侈品很感興趣，我分不清香奈兒手袋和阿爾迪手袋，但每次她給我看什么東西時(shí)，我仍然目瞪口呆。
一些手袋和手表售價(jià)高達(dá)幾百萬歐元，相當(dāng)于一套馬里布海灘別墅，他們究竟是如何讓人們愿意付出這樣的高價(jià)的呢 ？
一個(gè)詞： 稀缺。
當(dāng)事物不那么容易獲得時(shí)，你會更加重視它們，潛意識里，你的大腦告訴你這一定是某種特別的東西，所以你最好在蛋糕沒了之前把它吃掉，這就是為什么普拉達(dá)等制造商寧愿燒掉自己的手袋，也不會打折出售的原因——它讓供應(yīng)量保持在低水平，而感知價(jià)值卻保持在高水平。
當(dāng)你知道這個(gè)竅門的時(shí)候，生活會變得容易得多。
你不僅可以發(fā)現(xiàn)用有限的工作機(jī)會來引誘你的企圖，而且還可以解釋為什么過于空閑會扼殺性吸引力，以及對每個(gè)請求都說好，會耗費(fèi)你的時(shí)間，貶低你的工作。
“ 沒有什么地方的水能像沙漠里的水一樣動人，因?yàn)闆]有哪個(gè)地方的水是如此稀缺?！?br>—— 愛德華 · 艾比
More Choices Mean Less Satisfaction
I love restaurants because they serve good food and I’m a little fat kid at heart. But there’s one thing I can’t stand.
Long menus confuse the hell out of me. I’m there to eat, not to read a book. In the end, I always pick a random dish and spend half my time wondering what no. 83 would’ve tasted like and if I shouldn’t have ordered it instead.
In psychology, this is known as overchoice. The more alternatives you have the less satisfied you are with your choice because there could’ve been something better.
Keep it simple. Be pragmatic. Don’t overthink. Yes, you could’ve swiped through another 200 people on Tinder, watched another ten movie trailers, or thought about another 50 ways to spend your evening.
But more choices don’t always bring more satisfaction — sometimes they only bring regret.
“The fact that some choice is good doesn’t necessarily mean that more choice is better.”
— Barry Schwartz
# 選擇越多，滿意度越低
我喜歡餐館，因?yàn)樗麄兲峁┟牢兜氖澄?，而我?nèi)心深處是個(gè)小胖子，但有一件事我不能忍：
長長的菜單總把我搞糊涂，我是去吃飯的，不是去看菜單的。
最后，我總是隨便選一道菜，花一半的時(shí)間去想83號菜會是什么味道（如果我沒有點(diǎn)它的話）。
在心理學(xué)上，這就是所謂的“過度選擇”。
你的選擇越多，你對自己的選擇就越不滿意，因?yàn)槿丝倳杏X本可以有更好的選擇。
保持簡單，務(wù)實(shí)，不要想太多。
是，你可以在探探上再刷過200個(gè)人，再看10個(gè)電影預(yù)告片，或者再想出另外50種度過夜晚的方式，但更多的選擇并不總是帶來更多的滿足感 ——有時(shí)只會帶來遺憾。
" 有選擇是好的，并不一定意味著選擇越多越好。"
—— 巴里 · 施瓦茨
“The Only Constant in Life Is Change”
Heraclitus, the ancient Greek philosopher, was way ahead of his time when he said these famous words.
Nothing lasts forever. From the tiny cells in your body over the weather to the position of planets, everything changes all the time.
There are two lessons you should draw from that.
First, enjoy good situations while they last. The sun feels nice on your skin but clouds will soon cover it. The honeymoon phase feels amazing, but the wild emotions will calm down. Your investment does well, but after a bull market always comes a bearish one. Enjoy it while it lasts.
Second, bad situations aren’t forever as well — yay! Your long, boring workday will be over at one point. You won’t be heartbroken forever. Even your annoying neighbor will either move out or die at one point. Don’t despair — bad things aren’t here to stay either.
The only constant in life is change.
# “生命中唯一不變的就是變化”
古希臘哲學(xué)家赫拉克利特的這句名言遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)超前于他所處的時(shí)代。
沒有什么是永恒的，從你身體里的微小細(xì)胞到天氣，再到行星的位置，一切都在隨時(shí)變化。
有兩個(gè)教訓(xùn)你應(yīng)該從中吸取。
第一，趁著歲月靜好，好好享受。
陽光照在皮膚上的感覺很好，但云層很快就會覆蓋它，蜜月階段的感覺很奇妙，但狂熱的情緒會平靜下來，你的投資做得很好，但牛市過后總會有一個(gè)熊市，趁著這段時(shí)間，好好享受吧。
第二，壞事也不是永遠(yuǎn)的。
你漫長而無聊的工作日會在某個(gè)時(shí)刻結(jié)束，你不會永遠(yuǎn)心碎，甚至你惱人的鄰居也會在某一刻搬走或死掉。
不要絕望—— 壞事不會一直停留。
生命中唯一不變的就是變化。
Problems Make You Happy
I’ll question the mental health of anybody who says “I’d like another serving of extra-large issues with a side of difficult challenges please.” Yet, problems are crucial to your happiness, albeit not directly.
What makes you happy isn’t the problem itself, but solving it.
Trying to lose weight means problems. Hitting the gym is hard and diets suck. But if you push past the pain, you feel great about yourself and the way you solved your problems. You’re happy.
Unfortunately, this doesn’t last forever. A six-pack today won’t keep your happiness levels high a year from now. You need a new problem to solve.
If you didn’t have any obstacles to overcome, life would quickly get dull. What would you do without challenges? You can only enjoy Mojitos in the sun for so long until it gets boring.
The next time you face a problem, don’t get angry or sad. See it as what it really is — another opportunity for happiness.
# 問題讓你快樂
如果有人說：“請?jiān)俳o我來一份特大號的問題，配上最困難的挑戰(zhàn)?！蔽視|(zhì)疑他的心理是否健康。
問題對你的幸福至關(guān)重要，盡管不是直接的。
讓你快樂的不是問題本身，而是解決問題。
試圖減肥就意味著問題——去健身房很難，節(jié)食也很糟糕，但是如果你克服了痛苦，你就會對自己和自己解決問題的方式感到很高興，你會很快樂。
不幸的是，這種情況不會永遠(yuǎn)持續(xù)下去，今天的六塊腹肌不會讓你的幸福水平在一年后保持在高位，你需要一個(gè)新的問題來解決。
如果你沒有任何障礙需要克服，生活很快就會變得枯燥乏味。
如果沒有挑戰(zhàn)，你還能座什么？你只能在陽光下長時(shí)間的享受莫吉托雞尾酒，直到它變得無聊。
下次你遇到問題的時(shí)候，不要生氣或者難過，看清它的真面目—— 一個(gè)獲得快樂的機(jī)會。

評論翻譯
Manevannan
The next time you face a problem, don’t get angry or sad. See it as what it really is—another opportunity for happiness.
Well written, I like it.
“下次你遇到問題的時(shí)候，不要生氣或者難過，看清它的真面目—— 一個(gè)獲得快樂的機(jī)會?！?br>——這句寫的好，我喜歡。

Moreno Zugaro
Thanks for your comment Paul!
I sympathize with you a lot - I've had a savior complex for most of my life and loved to solve other's problems.
Thankfully the consequences weren't as tragic as in your case, but I still learned my lesson.
Hope you're on a better path now & wish you a happy week!
感謝你的評論 !
我非常同情你——在我生命的大部分時(shí)間里，我都有一種救世主情結(jié)，喜歡解決別人的問題。
謝天謝地，結(jié)果不像你那樣悲慘，但我還是吸取了教訓(xùn)。
希望你現(xiàn)在走在一條更好的道路上，祝你周末愉快 !