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How can I control my anger?

我怎樣才能控制自己的憤怒?

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Shikhar Agarwal
There once lived a boy who had a bad temper. He would get angry at every little thing. One day, his father gave him a bag of nails and told him, "Every time you get angry, hammer a nail into that front wall."
And so the activity started. On the first day, the boy hammered 50 nails. The next day, he hammered 40. Each time he used to go there, he repented being angry - it was quite a challenge to hammer a nail into that damn brick wall! Slowly, he discovered that controlling anger was easier than hammering, and the number of nails hammered started going down.
Eventually, a day came when he didn't get angry, and he felt the joy of it. Now his father gave him another task, "If you do not get angry the entire day, remove one nail from the wall." After several days, all the nails were removed.
Now his father took him near the wall and asked him what did he see. The boy replied that he can see holes in the wall. The father then explained to his son: "These holes are like the scars that you leave on people when you get angry. No matter how many times you say sorry, the scar does not go."
So I suggest you two things:
Realize that words once spoken cannot come back. Your anger hurts others and leaves a sour impression that lasts forever.
Each time you get angry, "hammer a nail". Simplest thing you can do is to carry a pocket diary and put a line each time you get angry. Then at night, count the number of lines for that day. If you make this a habit, each time you would get angry, you would be reminded to note it down. Indirectly, you would also realize that you getting angry. And because you are conscious and aware at that time, you would find it easier to control your actions and subdue anger.
I hope the day comes soon when you don't have any line in your diary.

從前有一個男孩脾氣很壞。他會為每一件小事生氣。有一天，他的父親給了他一袋釘子，告訴他：“每次你生氣的時候，就把釘子釘進前面的那堵墻。”
于是活動開始了。第一天，男孩釘了50顆釘子。第二天，他釘了40顆。每次他去那里，他都會后悔生氣——把釘子釘進那該死的磚墻是一個很大的挑戰(zhàn)！慢慢地，他發(fā)現(xiàn)控制憤怒比錘擊要容易，錘擊的釘子數(shù)量開始減少。
最終，有一天他沒有生氣，他感到了快樂。現(xiàn)在他父親又給了他一個任務(wù)：“如果你一整天都不生氣，就把墻上的一顆釘子拔下來。”幾天后，所有的釘子都被拔掉了。
他父親把他帶到墻邊，問他看見了什么。男孩回答說他能看到墻上的洞。父親向兒子解釋道：“這些洞就像你生氣時留給別人的傷疤。無論你說多少次對不起，傷疤都不會消失。”
所以我建議你做兩件事：
要知道，一旦說出的話就再也回不來了。你的憤怒傷害了別人，會給人留下永久的壞印象。
每次你生氣，“釘釘子”。你們能做的最簡單的事情就是隨身攜帶一本袖珍日記，每次你們生氣的時候?qū)懸恍?。然后在晚上，?shù)一數(shù)那天的行數(shù)。如果你養(yǎng)成了這個習慣，每次你生氣的時候，都會被提醒記下來。間接地，你也會意識到你在生氣。因為那時你有意識和明白的，你會發(fā)現(xiàn)更容易控制自己的行為和抑制憤怒。
我希望這一天很快就會到來—你的日記里一行都沒有。

Bhawna Dahiya Studied at Chand Ram Public School , Delhi1y

Bhawna Dahiya就讀于德里昌德拉姆公立學校

This is the worst thing we’ve been taught.
Stop controlling your anger. Just stop!
What we need to control is the things we do when we’re angry, not the anger itself.
This person just shouted at you for no reason and you got angry. Isn’t this pure biology?
Anger helps you set boundaries. It’s always a secondary emotion and comes in play when you’re not able to deal with things easily. It’s there to help you.
That person is still shouting at you. You don’t control your anger anymore.
You simply ask that person to shut up!
But also you don’t spill hot coffee over that person right? You control your reaction not your emotion. Getting the drift?
Anger is an emotion. And emotions, my friend, are meant to be expressed not compressed.
Compressed emotions are dangerous, toxic, unhealthy and every other negative adjective you like.
If you get angry, uate that thing for a second, and then control the things you do thereafter instead of controlling what you’re feeling.
If you accidently touch a hot pan, you don’t smile at it and tell it that it’s hot rather you just flinch away. Emotions exist for a reason.
Let’s practice this-
If you didn’t like my answer and are angry because I wasted your precious time, you have two options with you. Either just accept that you’re angry and control your reaction or jump into my comments section and tell me how crappy the answer is.
I wouldn’t mind either though.

這是我們學到的最糟糕的事情。
停止控制你的憤怒，停下來！
我們需要控制的是我們生氣時所做的事情，而不是憤怒本身。
這個人無緣無故地對你大喊大叫，你很生氣，這不是純生理習性嗎？
憤怒幫助你設(shè)定界限。它總是一種次要的情緒，當你不能輕松地處理事情時就會發(fā)揮作用。它是用來幫助你的。
那個人還在對你大喊大叫，你再也無法控制你的憤怒了。
你只需要讓那個人閉嘴!
但你也不會把熱咖啡灑到那個人身上，對嗎？你控制自己的反應(yīng)，而不是情緒。明白了嗎？
憤怒是一種情緒。我的朋友，情感是用來表達的，而不是被壓縮的。
壓抑的情緒是危險的、令人極不愉快的、不健康的，以及你更像的任何其他負面形容詞。
如果你生氣了，先評估一下那件事，然后控制你以后做的事情，而不是控制你的感覺。
如果你不小心碰了一個熱鍋，你不會對它微笑并告訴它它很熱，而只是退縮。情緒的存在是有原因的。
讓我們練習一下：
如果你不喜歡我的回答，因為我浪費了你寶貴的時間而生氣，你有兩個選擇。要么接受你的憤怒并控制你的反應(yīng)，要么跳進我的評論區(qū)，告訴我我的答案有多糟糕。
不過我也不介意。

Mental Facts ·?
Anger is something that is very dangerous, therefore you need to control your anger. people who can’t control their anger are the most people who get themselves into bigger problems,
And this is the reason why if you go to our prisons, most of the people there in the prisons has regretted of being beast at that small possible time.
Self control is the key to dismiss anger. Those who can’t control themselves are easily to get problem and later cry out loudly for their punishment.
Any body can offend you, but you need to control yourself, or you should have a nice way to deal with them.
Africans have this nice proverb that says; the one you eat with is the one who takes your meat that means you can’t eat alone and still complain that someone has taking your meat.

憤怒是非常危險的，因此你需要控制你的憤怒。無法控制自己憤怒的人是最容易陷入更大問題的人，
這就是為什么如果你去我們的監(jiān)獄，監(jiān)獄里的大多數(shù)人都后悔在非常短的時間里成為野獸。
自我控制是消除憤怒的關(guān)鍵。那個些無法控制自己的人很容易遇到問題，然后因受懲罰而大聲哭泣。
任何人都可能冒犯你，但你需要控制自己，否則你應(yīng)該有一個很好的方法來對付他們。
非洲人有一句很好的諺語說：和你一起吃飯的人是那個拿走你肉的人，這意味著你不能一個人吃，還抱怨有人拿走了你的肉。

Abinash Mishra
Since I have Anger issue, I have read a lot and watched many videos on this. Hardly any helped me.
Later I realized from my own experience on this few practical things that help me:
Often Anger is built up in conversations especially when you have difference with others on a topic. You give logic, then he or she gives counter logic. Then both try to hold to each other's ego. It slowly builds up and gets bursted. When it is getting built up, leave the conversation or diffuse it. For example at times in conversation with my sisters or parents I know things are getting built up. So I immediately cut the call saying a call from my boss is coming or an urgent work is there. It just breaks the build up
Try to understand the other side : Often we make many assumptions in our head for others. Always it's good to talk directly to the other person and know his or her side. On most of the occasions we can realize that the assumptions we made in our head about others is wrong. On most of the occasions.
When conversations are not going right way and anger is building up, put a question to other instead of saying a plain statement. Its a magic trick for me. For example, if Maa says you should not go there. Do not say I will go at any cost. Often it creates ego dispute. Rather put a question “ mom, why do you think I should not go there. Do you perceive any harm”. Just put a logical question. The other side too takes time to rethink and it often diffuses the situation.
Your experiences are your biggest teacher.

因為我有憤怒的問題，我讀了很多，看了很多關(guān)于這方面的視頻。幾乎沒有人幫我。
后來，我從自己的經(jīng)歷中意識到，這幾件實用的事情對我有幫助：
通常，憤怒會在談話中積累起來，尤其是當你與他人在某個話題上存在分歧時。你給出邏輯，然后他或她給出反邏輯。然后雙方都試圖抓住對方的自我。憤怒慢慢地積聚起來，然后爆發(fā)。當它建立起來的時候，離開對話或者分散它。例如，有時在與我的姐妹或父母交談時，我知道事情正在變得越來越復(fù)雜。所以我立即掛斷了電話，說老板來了，或者有緊急工作要做，這只是打破了憤怒積淀的過程
試著理解另一面：我們經(jīng)常在腦海中為別人做很多假設(shè)。與他人直接交談并了解對方的情況總是好的。在大多數(shù)情況下，我們可以意識到我們頭腦中對他人的假設(shè)是錯誤的。大多數(shù)情況下都是如此。
當談話進展不順利，憤怒情緒高漲時，向?qū)Ψ教釂?，而不是直截了當?shù)卣f。這對我來說是個魔術(shù)般的竅門。例如，如果媽說你不該去那里。別說我會不惜任何代價去。這通常會引起爭吵。而是提出一個問題：“媽媽，為什么你認為我不應(yīng)該去那里。你覺得若去那有什么害處嗎？”。只要提出一個合乎邏輯的問題。另一方面也需要時間來重新思考，它往往會分散局勢。
你的經(jīng)驗是對你幫助最大的老師。