——02——

In the depths of my soul's domain, a battle rages fierce,?

Between my id and super-ego, their clashes never cease.?

As flames of conflict dance and rise, the time for action nears,?

For my body's lost its reins, and health fades, it appears.

Yet, relinquishing control to another's grip I fear,?

In this perilous subculture, doubts cloud and disappear.?

Haunted by shadows of my self, uncertainty I find,?

Perhaps when this book's consumed, my path will be defined.

—— Introduction——

A glimpse through the crevice:

? ? ? ? ?"... BDSM... a complex set of behaviors that can be expressions of people’s health and impulses to grow, or be expressions of people’s brokenness and internal conflict or suffering."

? ? ? ? "Contrary to popular misconcepons that BDSM is either “good” or “bad,” ... BDSM is a neutral concept. When applied to a healthy relaonship, BDSM can be playful, a growth experience, highly inmate, and grafying. When applied to an unhealthy relaonship, it can be traumac, destrucve, a barrier to inmacy, and toxic."

? ? ? ? "There is no one right or wrong way of building a sexual identy. It is paramount to respect people’s autonomy in how they choose to build their sexual selves."

? ? ? ? "...the role of Carl Jung’s concept of the Shadow (Note?1)?and its crical role in the ownership and actualizaon of one’s sexual fantasies. We journey into areas where things can and do go wrong, when BDSM is counterindicated based on an individual’s or relaonship’s toxicity or pathology. We discern the differences between BDSM and abuse. We look at the delicate strength of power exchange and its eroc role in relaonships, from the most casual to the most intensive."

Interesting distinction on the shamefulness:

? ? ? ? "Healthy shame is important in the development of solidarity and connecon to a family or clan, the development of moral values and behavior, and the development of a “good self”—knowing when we have crossed a line and really hurt someone else or done something that is harmful. Healthy shame is focused on embarrassment over an action, and can lead to attempts to repair and seek forgiveness or to beer oneself in the future."?

? ? ? ? "Toxic shame causes great suffering and damages one’s ability to actualize developmental potenal, growth, and well-being. This kind of shame is focused on the self, the person, as somehow a failure or unlovable regardless of how one behaves or what one does."

My thoughts:?

I want to say that the concept of healthy shame is actually quite shameful. Does seeking forgiveness mean self-compassion??

Note:

1. The concept of Shadow is from?Carl Jung’s?'Egosyntonic and egodystonic'.