Rigidity in the face of complexity is toxic.

A third of us either judge ourselves for having so-called "bad emotions," like sadness, anger or even grief, or actively try to push aside these feelings.

And being positive has become a new form of moral correctness.

It's a tyranny of positivity

But emotional agility is more that just an acceptance of emotions. We also know that accuracy matters.

When We internalize the difference between how I feel in all my wisdom and what I do in a values-aligned action, We generate the pathway to our best selves via our emotions.

And try not to say "I am," as in, "I'm angry" or "I'm sad." When you say "I am" it makes you sound as if you are the emotion. Whereas you are you, and the emotion is a data source. Instead try to notice the feeling for what it is: I'm noticing that I'm feeling sad," or "I'm noticing I'm feeling angry."

Courage is not an absence of fear; courage is fear walking.

Sawubona.