【TED】How to stop languishing and start finding flow？
1 內(nèi)容提煉
Languishing is a sense of emptiness, stagnation and ennui. You’re indifferent to your own indifference, which means you don't seek help and you might not even do anything to help yourself.
Researchers found that the best predictor of well-being was not optimism. It was flow. Flow is that feeling of being in the zone. It's that state of total absorption in an activity. For you, it might be cooking or running or gardening where you lose track of time and you might even lose your sense of self.
Adam's Mario Kart theory of peak flow:
It has three conditions: mastery, mindfulness and mattering
1. Mastery is something a lot of us have been having a hard time finding lately. Psychologists find that at work the strongest factor in daily motivation and joy is a sense of progress.?
2. That kind of mastery depends on a second condition for flow, mindfulness. Focusing your full attention on a single task.
3. Now, mastery and mindfulness will get you to flow, but there's a third condition that turns it into a peak experience. Mattering. Knowing that you make a difference to other people.
2 生詞掃盲
? ? - stagnation [st?ɡ?ne??(?)n] n. 停滯
? ? - ennui [ɑn?wi] n. 倦怠；無聊
? ? - scrabble [?skr?b(?)l]? n.(亂)扒；爭奪；掙扎；拼字游戲? v. 忙亂地找；翻找；亂抓；亂動
? ? - binge [b?nd?] v. 大吃大喝；狂歡作樂
? ? - immortalize [??m?rt(?)l?a?z] v. 使名垂千古
? ? - muddle [?m?d(?)l] v. 混淆；弄亂；攪混；使困惑? n. 混亂；糊涂；困惑；茫然
? ? - windshield [?w?n(d)??ild] n. 風(fēng)擋；（摩托車等前面的）擋風(fēng)玻璃
? ? - anguish [???ɡw??] n. 痛苦
? ? - chronic [?krɑn?k] adj. 長期的；慢性的
? ? - languish [?l??ɡw??] n. 憔悴；萎靡
? ? - groundhog [?ɡra?nd?h?ɡ] n.〔工〕挖土機(jī)；土撥鼠
? ? - utter [??t?r] adj. 完全的；十足的；徹底的
? ? - bliss [bl?s] n. 極樂；幸福
? ? - blah [blɑ]? adj. 乏味的；不舒服；悶悶不樂
? ? - dampen [?d?mp?n] v. 抑制；弄濕；使潮濕
? ? - lurk [l?rk]? v. 潛伏；（不好或危險的事）潛在；
? ? - dwindle [?dw?nd(?)l] v. 減少；變瘦；衰落；退化
? ? - reminisce [?rem??n?s] v. 回憶
? ? - gloat [ɡlo?t] v. 幸災(zāi)樂禍；沾沾自喜；揚揚得意
? ? - impending [?m?pend??] adj. 即將發(fā)生的；迫在眉睫的
? ? - mastery [?m?st?ri] n. 精通；控制；熟練掌握；駕馭
? ? - loaf [lo?f] n. (一)條；一條面包（通常重 1、2、4磅）；面包形糖塊；混日子
? ? - thrilled [θr?ld] adj. 非常興奮；極為激動
? ? - sourdough [?sa?r?do?] n. 酸面團(tuán)；發(fā)面面包
? ? - confetti [k?n?feti] n. （在婚禮或美國其他特殊活動中撒的）五彩紙屑
? ? - shred [?red]? **n.** （撕或切的）細(xì)條；極少量；些許；一丁點 **v.**切碎；撕碎
? ? - spike [spa?k] v. 用尖物刺入（或扎破）；在…中偷偷摻入（烈酒、毒藥或毒品）
? ? - fundraising [?f?nd?re?zi?] n. 籌款；資金籌集
? ? - alumnus [??l?mn?s] n. 畢業(yè)生
? ? - monotonous [m??nɑt(?)n?s]? adj. 單調(diào)乏味的
? ? - tuition [tu???(?)n] n. 指導(dǎo)；（尤指大專院校的）學(xué)費
? ? - peel [pil] n. 果皮；（某些水果、蔬菜的）外皮? v. 剝落；去皮；脫落；剝掉
? ? - gang [ɡ??] v. 〈英〉去；把…編成班組；〈口〉合伙攻擊；使成套
? ? - immerse [??m?rs] v. 使浸沒于；（使）深陷于
? ? - antidote [??nt??do?t] n. 解毒藥；解毒劑；
? ? - muster [?m?st?r] v. 集合；找尋；趕攏（牛、羊）
? ? - upbeat [??p?bit] adj. 樂觀的；快樂的；積極向上的
3 好句賞析
- That people who are randomly assigned to count more blessings, are actually, on average, less happy because you start to run out of things to be optimistic about.
- I learned that love is not the frequency of communication, it's the depth of connections.
- I also realized that the antidote to languishing does not have to be something productive, it can be something joyful.
- Our peak moments of flow are having fun with the people we love, which is now a daily task on my to-do list.
- I think we need to rethink our understanding of mental health and well-being.
- Not depressed doesn't mean you're not struggling. Not burned out doesn't mean you're fired up.
- When someone says, "How are you?," it's OK to say, "Honestly, I'm languishing." Or if you can only muster one syllable, "Meh." And when you're ready, you can start finding the flow that lights a path out of the void.
【拓展鏈接】
2. https://dailyasianage.com/news/260034/theres-a-name-for-the-blah-youre-feeling--its-called-languishing
