分手后，男性會(huì)比女性更傷心？

論文標(biāo)題：Dirty laundry: The nature and substance of seeking relationship help from strangers online:

作者：Charlotte Entwistle, Andrea B. Horn, Tabea Meier, Ryan L. Boyd

期刊：Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

發(fā)表時(shí)間：2021/10/23

數(shù)字識(shí)別碼：10.1177/02654075211046635

摘要：Interpersonal relationships are vital to our well-being. In recent years, it has become increasingly common to seek relationship help through anonymous online platforms. Accordingly, we conducted a large-scale analysis of real-world relationship help-seeking to create a descriptive overview of the nature and substance of online relationship help-seeking. By analyzing the demographic characteristics and language of relationship help-seekers on Reddit (N = 184,631), we establish the first-ever big data analysis of relationship help-seeking and relationship problems in situ among the general population. Our analyses highlight real-world relationship struggles found in the general population, extending beyond past work that is typically limited to counseling/intervention settings. We find that relationship problem estimates from our sample are closer to those found in the general population, providing a more generalized insight into the distribution and prevalence of relationship problems as compared with past work. Further, we find several meaningful associations between relationship help-seeking behavior, gender, and attachment. Notably, numerous gender differences in help-seeking and romantic attachment emerged. Our findings suggest that, contrary to more traditional contexts, men are more likely to seek help with their relationships online, are more expressive of their emotions (e.g., discussing the topic of “heartache”), and show language patterns generally consistent with more secure attachment. Our analyses highlight pathways for further exploration, providing even deeper insights into the timing, lifecycle, and moderating factors that influence who, what, why, and how people seek help for their interpersonal relationships.

分手后到底誰(shuí)會(huì)覺得更傷心呢？英國(guó)蘭卡斯特大學(xué)的一項(xiàng)數(shù)據(jù)研究顯示，答案可能是男性。
過去，相關(guān)研究關(guān)注的都是接受過心理治療的夫妻，這樣得出的結(jié)果并不能完全反映大眾的情況。因此，研究團(tuán)隊(duì)首次決定采用大數(shù)據(jù)分析的方式探索這一問題。
他們一共對(duì)18.4萬(wàn)名在匿名論壇上發(fā)表戀愛關(guān)系問題的人以及他們的心理狀態(tài)進(jìn)行了分析，并統(tǒng)計(jì)出了哪些主題與戀愛問題有關(guān)。

根據(jù)研究團(tuán)隊(duì)發(fā)表在《社會(huì)與個(gè)人關(guān)系雜志》的結(jié)果，溝通問題是被提到最多次數(shù)的主題，大約1/5的人都會(huì)提到溝通存在困難。此外，1/8的人認(rèn)為戀愛中存在信任問題。
而新研究還發(fā)現(xiàn)，某些特定的主題會(huì)與性別存在聯(lián)系?！斑@是一次辨別戀愛中性別差異的好機(jī)會(huì)，”研究的主要作者Ryan Boyd博士表示，比如過去我們認(rèn)為男性在交往中情感投入會(huì)更少，又或者男性會(huì)羞于表達(dá)自己的情緒，但事實(shí)是這樣嗎？
????答案并不是，與過往的推測(cè)差距很大，男性其實(shí)可能更容易為情所傷，并且不會(huì)閉口不談……當(dāng)大家討論情感問題時(shí)，核心的點(diǎn)都是討論的情感創(chuàng)傷，比如心痛的感覺，還有一些關(guān)鍵詞類似于后悔、分手、哭、心碎都代表著這類主題。

參考資料：

[1] Men experience more emotional pain during breakups. Retrieved Nov 10th, 2021 from https://www.eurekalert.org/news-releases/933289

[2] Charlotte Entwistle et al, Dirty laundry: The nature and substance of seeking relationship help from strangers online, Journal of Social and Personal Relationships (2021). DOI: 10.1177/02654075211046635