TED演講者：Jerome Hunter / 杰羅姆·亨特

演講標(biāo)題：3 skills every middle school boy needs / 三個每一個中學(xué)男生都需要的技能

內(nèi)容概要：Middle school is a time like no other, as significant biological and emotional changes coincide with profound personal growth, says educator Jerome Hunter. The middle school for boys that he founded centers on a program that helps redefine masculinity through what he calls the three "Cs" -- confidence, communication and community. He shares the growth he.s seen when boys are encouraged to explore their own empathy -- and how it could lead to a more just world.

教育家杰羅姆·亨特 (Jerome Hunter) 說，中學(xué)是一個與眾不同的時期，在這段時間里，重大的生理和情感變化與個人成長同時發(fā)生。在他創(chuàng)辦的男子中學(xué)，他以他所謂的三個“C”為教育中心，——自信、溝通和社區(qū)——幫助重新定義男子氣概。他分享了他在鼓勵男孩探索自己的同理心時所看到的成長——以及它如何導(dǎo)致一個更加公正的世界。

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【1】Whenever I tell people I work at a middle school, they often lean back and suck their teeth.

每當(dāng)我告訴人們我在一所中學(xué)工作, 他們經(jīng)常倒吸一口冷氣。

【2】It's like they're having a visceral reaction to the mere mention of those years, and it makes sense.

簡直像是只要提到了那些年 他們就會產(chǎn)生應(yīng)激反應(yīng) 這是有一些道理的。

【3】Middle school is a time like no other.

中學(xué)是一段非常特別的時光。

【4】It's when significant biological, neurological and emotional changes are happening all at the same time.

這是當(dāng)生理、心理和情緒 同時發(fā)生重大的變化的時候。

【5】So how do middle schoolers respond to these changes?

那么中學(xué)生如何應(yīng)對這些變化呢？

【6】Well, some might ignore deodorant but overuse Axe body spray.

好吧,有些人可能忽視除臭劑 但過度使用 Axe 身體噴霧劑。

【7】You can find them holding up the walls during the school dance.

你會發(fā)現(xiàn)他們在 學(xué)校舞會期間縮在角落里。

【8】And there's usually a desire to be treated like an adult, but they can't quite let go of their action figures.

他們通常都希望 被像成年人一樣對待, 但他們又不能完全放棄他們的手辦,

【9】You might imagine that it looks a little like this.

你可能會想象它看起來有點像這樣。

【10】This was me in sixth grade, and like many middle school students, I was earnest, I was goofy, and I was just discovering who I wanted to be.

這是六年級的我, 和許多中學(xué)生一樣, 我很認(rèn)真,也很傻, 我才開始探索 自己想成為什么樣的人。

【11】Now I had no idea that I'd go on to teach middle school.

我完全不知道我會去教中學(xué)。

【12】They say the grade levels you teach are most reflective of your personality.

他們說你教的年級 最能反映你的個性。

【13】So I'm not quite sure what it says about me that I later went on to found a middle school for boys.

所以我不太確定對我來說它指什么 因為我后來又創(chuàng)辦了一所男子中學(xué)。

【14】But in all seriousness, it didn't take long as a teacher to realize that my male students were acting kind of strange.

但說真的, 當(dāng)老師沒多久 我就意識到我的男學(xué)生們 表現(xiàn)得有點奇怪。

【15】I remember there was this one year, we were doing a get-to-know-you activity where students would use old magazines to create collages representing who they were.

我記得有一年, 我們正在做一個“介紹自己”的活動 學(xué)生們會用舊雜志 來創(chuàng)作代表了他們自己的拼貼畫。

【16】And many of the collages had all of the things that typical middle schoolers like: the outdoors, sports, the latest fashion, the hottest shoes, you know, all the important stuff.

許多拼貼畫 都有典型中學(xué)生喜歡的所有東西: 戶外、運動、 新潮時尚、最熱門的鞋子, 你懂的,所有重要的東西。

【17】However, there were some that were not exactly what I had in mind.

但是,有些內(nèi)容 并不完全符合我的想象。

【18】A group of middle school boys created these collages that were comical, if not concerning.

一群中學(xué)生創(chuàng)作了這些有趣, 但又有些令人擔(dān)憂的拼貼畫。

【19】It was almost as if they had made templates of who they thought that they should be.

就好像他們已經(jīng)為自己應(yīng)該成為的人 制作了模板。

【20】Girls in bikinis, fast cars, professional wrestlers, first-person shooter video games.

比基尼女孩、快車、職業(yè)摔跤手、 第一人稱射擊游戲。

【21】You get the idea.

你知道的。

【22】One collage actually had to have had at least 25 different images of Kim Kardashian.

一所學(xué)校實際要有

【23】And this wasn't an isolated incident.

這不是一個單獨的事件。

【24】Whether it was going down a somewhat sketchy YouTube rabbit hole or mindlessly indulging in meme culture, which we know can get really hairy really fast,

無論是進(jìn)入一個感覺哪里 都不太對的YouTube世界, 還是盲目地沉迷于那些 火得很快的梗文化,

【25】I was noticing a pattern with my boys.

我開始注意到我 的孩子們的一種模式。

【26】Instead of chalking it up as mindless activities or typical middle school behavior, I decided to investigate.

我并沒有將其當(dāng)作隨意打鬧 或當(dāng)作典型的中學(xué)行為, 我決定進(jìn)行調(diào)查。

【27】I became a mentor for an afterschool program called My Brother's Keeper.

我成為了一個名為“兄弟的守護(hù)者” 的課后項目的導(dǎo)師。

【28】And in this space, we could have more in-depth conversations.

在這個空間里, 我們可以進(jìn)行更深入的對話。

【29】Inspired by the 2016 presidential debates, I asked this group of boys an age-old question: "Does absolute power corrupt absolutely?"

受到2016 年總統(tǒng)辯論的啟發(fā), 我向這群男孩提出了 一個老生常談的問題: “絕對權(quán)力是否絕對腐敗？”

【30】Students began to discuss amongst themselves.

同學(xué)們開始議論紛紛。

【31】And then I asked, "Now what would you do if you had this kind of power?

然后我問,“如果你有這種權(quán)利,你會做什么？

【32】And what if it was unchecked?"

如果它不受管理怎么辦？”

【33】Students continued talking and then they shared out.

學(xué)生們又繼續(xù)開始討論,然后分享。

【34】Many of them said that they would use their power for good or even share it.

他們中的許多人表示,

【35】And as I listened, I felt hopeful.

當(dāng)我聽的時候,我感到充滿希望。

【36】Realizing that young men could take a different path.

我意識到年輕人 可以選擇走不同的道路。

【37】And then I brought the group together and I just said, "Does it have to be this way?"

然后我把大家召集在一起,我說, “一定只能這樣嗎？”

【38】Their collective light bulbs lit up, realizing that they could reject this version of masculinity.

他們的思維燈泡亮了起來, 意識到他們可以拒絕這種男子氣概。

【39】And at the same time, I too had an "aha!" moment.

同時,我也有了一個“啊哈！”瞬間

【40】It became clear to me that middle school boys are so impressionable and so full of potential.

我越來越確定,中學(xué)男生是 如此易受影響,如此充滿潛力。

【41】But what if I told you those same middle school boys could lead us to a more just and equitable society by redefining masculinity?

但如果我告訴你, 同樣是這些男中學(xué)生 只要通過重新定義男子氣概 他們可以帶領(lǐng)我們走向一個 更加公正和公平的社會？

【42】Now in the days and weeks that followed, I continued to reflect on this idea.

在接下來的幾天和幾周里, 我繼續(xù)反思這個想法。

【43】What actually is masculinity?

究竟什么是男子氣概？

【44】If we reject the gender binary and affirm people of all genders, how does masculinity fit into that?

如果我們拒絕“性別二元論” 并肯定所有性別的人, 那么男子氣概如何融入其中？

【45】What are the expectations of masculinity when it comes to race, class and other social factors?

當(dāng)涉及種族、 階級和其他社會因素時, 我們對男性氣質(zhì)的期望是什么？

【46】I knew that middle school is fertile ground for this work.

我知道中學(xué)是這項工作的沃土。

【47】And my reflection led me to identify three critical skills that middle schoolers can practice to redefine masculinity.

我的反思讓我確定了三項中學(xué)生可以 練習(xí)重新定義男子氣概的關(guān)鍵技能

【48】I call them the three C's.

我稱它們?yōu)槿齻€ C。

【49】The first one is confidence, the second is communication, and the third is community.

第一個是信心（confidence）, 第二是溝通（communication）, 第三是社區(qū)（community）。

【50】Now these three C's stand as the pillars of my school to show people that middle schoolers can redefine masculinity.

現(xiàn)在,這三個 C 作為我學(xué)校的支柱, 向人們展示了中學(xué)生 可以重新定義男子氣概。

【51】Now number one, confidence is essential to teach in middle school.

第一,我們必須要在中學(xué)教自信。

【52】Students are exploring their identities, and they're more open to abstract thinking.

學(xué)生正在探索他們的身份, 他們更愿意接受抽象思維

【53】I believe that having a healthy and balanced confidence allows boys to feel good about who they are rather than feeling uncomfortable for trying to be someone they're not.

我相信擁有健康和平衡的自信 可以讓男孩們對自我感覺良好, 而不會因為試圖成為他們不是 的人而感到不舒服。

【54】It's different than simply being praised or rewarded for achievements but rather rooted in a deep sense of self.

這不同于簡單地因成就 而受到表揚或獎勵 而是源于深刻的自我意識。

【55】And so what my school does is move away from either-or thinking.

所以我的學(xué)校所做的是 擺脫非此即彼的思考。

【56】Instead of boys believing that they have to choose between being smart or athletic, poetic or pragmatic, we guide our boys to a more holistic version of masculinity that includes both-and.

男孩們不必再認(rèn)為他們必須要選擇 要么聰明要么運動、 要么充滿詩意要么務(wù)實 我們引導(dǎo)我們的男孩們 去獲得更全面的男子氣概 這包括兩者兼而有之。

【57】And as bell hooks and Olga Silverstein said, we need men who are empathetic and strong; autonomous and connected; responsible to self, friends, family, to community; and capable of understanding how those responsibilities are ultimately inseparable.

正如Bell Hooks 和 Olga Silverstein 所說, 我們需要有同情心和堅強(qiáng)的人; 既能自理也能與他人相處; 對自己、朋友、家人、 和社區(qū)負(fù)責(zé); 并且能夠理解 這些責(zé)任始終是不可分割的。

【58】And from a purely academic standpoint, we provide opportunities to teach confidence through cross-curricular work and projects that include math, science, the humanities, art, home ec, sports

從純粹的學(xué)術(shù)角度來看, 我們提供了學(xué)習(xí)自信的機(jī)會 通過跨學(xué)科的工作和項目, 包括數(shù)學(xué)、科學(xué)、人文、 藝術(shù)、家政、體育,

【59】to show them that deep learning and critical thinking often require an integration of all of these subjects.

向他們展示深度學(xué)習(xí)和批判性思維 通常需要整合所有這些學(xué)科。

【60】Teaching confidence allows boys to understand that there's an entire spectrum of how they can express themselves, and they can feel good and value the complexity of their identity and stand firm in it with confidence.

通過教會他們自信,男孩們明白 他們有很多方式來表達(dá)自己, 他們可以感覺良好 并重視他們身份的復(fù)雜性 并懷著信心堅定地站在其中。

【61】The second C represents communication.

第二個C代表交流

【62】Now communication is key.

溝通是關(guān)鍵。

【63】To counter the messages that society tells boys to constrict their emotions, my school practices a variety of communication methods, both intrapersonally and interpersonally.

為了反駁這個告訴男孩們 要抑制情緒的社會, 我的學(xué)校會練習(xí)多種溝通方式, 包括內(nèi)省和人際交流。

【64】Now intrapersonally is how you communicate with yourself, and interpersonally is how you communicate with others.

內(nèi)省是你與自己溝通的方式, 人際關(guān)系是你與他人溝通的方式。

【65】One example of our intrapersonal communication methods is we'll have students arrive at their desks at the beginning of the day.

舉例一個我們練習(xí)自省的方法 我們會在一天的開始 讓學(xué)生坐在他們的桌前

【66】They'll close their eyes, breathe evenly for about a minute so they can just check in with themselves, see how they're doing, what they're thinking, how they're feeling.

他們會閉上眼睛, 均勻地呼吸大約一分鐘, 這樣他們就可以檢查自己, 看看自己怎么樣, 在想什么,感覺如何。

【67】It allows them to put a frame around their thoughts and emotions so they can focus on it a little more deeply throughout the day.

它可以讓他們?yōu)樽约旱南敕ê颓榫w 設(shè)定一個框架, 這樣他們就可以在一天中 更深入地關(guān)注它。

【68】Students also keep gratitude journals.

學(xué)生還會寫感恩日記。

【69】Research shows that when students express gratitude on a regular basis, it increases positive emotions toward themselves and toward others.

研究表明,當(dāng)學(xué)生 定期表達(dá)感激之情時, 它會增加對自己和他人的積極情緒。

【70】An interpersonal practice that we like to do is at the end of the day, we'll have students gather in a circle to offer an appreciation for someone or something.

而我們喜歡做的人際交往練習(xí)是 在一天結(jié)束時, 我們會讓學(xué)生圍成一圈, 對某人或某事表示感謝

【71】Open it up to an apology or talk about a social issue that might be on their hearts.

敞開心扉的道歉 或者談?wù)撍麄兛赡荜P(guān)心的社會問題。

【72】And we normalize these forms of communication to show boys that it is perfectly human to open your minds and your hearts to your community.

我們將這些交流形式規(guī)范化 向男孩們表明,你完全可以 向你的思想,你的心靈 以及你的社區(qū)敞開心扉。

【73】Now the third C represents community, to counter this false sense of individualism and having to pull yourself up by your bootstraps.

現(xiàn)在第三個C代表社區(qū) 為了對抗這種錯誤的個人主義意識 導(dǎo)致人們覺得只能靠自己 的力量振作起來。

【74】While we also know that there is great value in teaching our boys the importance of independence, it can be stymied when taken to an extreme.

盡管我們也知道教導(dǎo)我們的男孩 獨立的重要性有很大的價值, 但如果走向極端, 它反而會變成阻礙。

【75】And so what we do is we engage in an inquiry process where we observe what's going on in our communities, either locally, nationally or globally, and then pose an essential question.

所以我們所做的是參與訪問調(diào)查, 觀察我們社區(qū)中發(fā)生的事情, 范圍可以在地方、國家或全球 然后提出一個重點問題。

【76】One year we posed an essential question to our students that asked, "How can we create a community where everyone feels a sense of belonging?"

有一年,我們向 學(xué)生提出了一個重點問題, “我們?nèi)绾蝿?chuàng)建一個 讓每個人都有歸屬感的社區(qū)？”

【77】Students took this question. They generated initial thoughts.

學(xué)生們接受了這個問題。 并產(chǎn)生了一些的想法。

【78】They sought multiple perspectives from their peers, their teachers, community leaders.

他們從同齡人、老師 和社區(qū)領(lǐng)袖那里尋求多種觀點。

【79】And then they came back to us and said, "We'd like to address homelessness in Seattle."

然后他們回來對我們說, “我們想解決西雅圖 的無家可歸問題?！?/p>

【80】We loved this idea.

我們很喜歡這個主意。

【81】And so we partnered with a local construction company to design, build and donate a tiny house.

因此,我們與當(dāng)?shù)匾患医ㄖ竞献?設(shè)計、建造并捐贈了一座小房子。

【82】Now what we realized is through this community learning process, students felt a greater sense of satisfaction with studying, taking academic risks and just valuing the overall learning process.

我們意識到, 通過這個社區(qū)學(xué)習(xí)過程, 學(xué)生對學(xué)習(xí)、承擔(dān)學(xué)術(shù)風(fēng)險 感到更加滿意。 也更加重視整個學(xué)習(xí)過程

【83】In addition, students felt more comfortable taking on leadership roles inside and outside of the classroom.

此外,學(xué)生感覺更舒適 在課堂內(nèi)外擔(dān)任領(lǐng)導(dǎo)角色。

【84】One thing to note that in each of these three C's the adults involved modeled this new version of masculinity to prove to students that they don't have to fit into a stereotype.

需要注意的是,在每一個C 中 參與其中的成年人 都模仿了這種新的男性氣質(zhì), 以向?qū)W生證明 他們不必適應(yīng)刻板印象。

【85】And while I'm often impressed by the vulnerability and kindness of each of my students, it's still a middle school.

雖然我經(jīng)常欽佩于 每個學(xué)生的脆弱和善良, 它仍然是一所中學(xué)。

【86】It's this liminal space between childhood and adulthood.

這是童年和成年之間 的這個臨界空間。

【87】And amongst our sophisticated conversations, there's a lot of nonsensical humor.

在我們復(fù)雜的談話中, 有很多荒謬的幽默。

【88】And very few of them have taken up regular usage of deodorant.

而且他們中很少有人 會長期使用除臭劑。

【89】And I know that this is lifelong work and there's no quick fix, but they show me that a better future is possible.

我知道這是終生的工作, 沒有快速解決辦法, 但它們告訴我, 一個更美好的未來是可能的。

【90】What if masculinity meant having a healthy and balanced confidence, communicating clearly, being connected to your community?

如果男子氣概意味著 擁有健康和平衡的自信、 清晰的溝通、與社會緊密連接？

【91】Just imagine how different our world would be.

想象一下我們的世界會有多么不同。

【92】My students don't even show me that this future is possible, but this future is here, with middle school boys leading the way.

我的學(xué)生甚至沒有向我 證明這個未來是可能的, 但這個未來就在這里, 由中學(xué)男生帶路。

【93】Thank you.

謝謝。