5 Truths That We Don't Want to Hear, But Need to Hear: 1) Pain is inevitable.

We falsely believe it's possible to get rid of the pain in our lives. We think, "If I could just have a jet ski, everything would be grand," while not foreseeing the pain we'll feel when our drunken sister rides away on it, never to be seen again.

2) Suffering is optional.

Though we will always experience pain, we can control the meaning we ascribe to it. If we decide the pain of our break-up means we're unworthy of love, we will suffer. If we decide it means our partner wasn't the right person for Us, we won't.

3) You don't deserve anything.

We get hung up on the belief that we deserve/ don't deserve the things happening in our lives. This is a distraction. Whether you deserve something doesn't matter. Shit happens, sometimes for no reason at all. What matters is what you do with it.

4) Humans are deeply flawed.

While you want to believe that everyone is amazing and can let their shit shine and heal the world, the truth is we're deeply flawed. We suffer from too many cognitive biases to count: confirmation, negativity, attribution biases-just to name a few.

5) We're all delusional.

We're biased towards our own desires. We overestimate our own importance. We remember things poorly, inventing beliefs that suit our needs in the present. We are also terrible at predicting the future. Know your limitations and stay humble.