Why do men want to have children? Evolutionary anthropologist?Anna Machin wrote a book about it and tries to answer this question. Catherine and Neil - a father himself - discuss her theories and teach you six items of related vocabulary.

This week's question:

According to recent research in the UK, what percentage of men are present when their children are born? Is it…

a)???55%

b)???75%

c)???95%

Listen to the programme to find out the answer.

Vocabulary?

admit to something

say something is true, even if it might make you look a little bit bad

to be keen on something

to be very interested in and enthusiastic about something

going along with something

agreeing to do something even though you don't really want to do it

an absent father

a father?who is not at home to spend time with his children

disciplinarians

people who have strict rules and they give out punishments when these rules aren't followed

to be hands-on

to be very much involved in something

Transcript

Catherine

Hello and welcome to 6 Minute English, I'm Catherine.?

Neil

And I'm Neil.?

Catherine

Now, Neil, you're a dad, aren't you??

Neil

I am a dad. How did you know? Is it the grey hair in my beard? Is it the wrinkles around the eyes??

Catherine

I thought that was just your age.?

Neil

Well, yes, maybe.In today's programme we're going to be talking about fathers and how being a father has changed over the years. But before we hear more about this topic, our question for the day. According to recent research in the UK, what percentage of men are present when their children are born? Is it…

a)?55%

b)?75%

c)?95%

What do you think??

Catherine

I think a lot of men these days like to see their children born. It's not culturally inappropriate so I'm going to go for 95%.?

Neil

Well, we'll find out if you're right at the end of the programme. Now, Dr Anna Machin is an evolutionary anthropologist. She studies, among other things, how human behaviour has changed and is changing. She's written a book called The Life of Dad. She's been studying new fathers and spoke about her research on the BBC's Woman's Hour programme. She asked why men want to become fathers. She starts by saying that there are lots of reasons but how many does she mention in her answer??

Dr Anna Machin

There's lots of different reasons why men want to be fathers ... for some of them it's just a stage in life they've reached. They've got the house, they've got the job, now it's time to have a family. Sometimes they?admit?that actually they're not that?keen, but their partner wants a baby, so they're kinda?going along with?it. And a reasonable number actually say they do it because they want to undo what their father did to them, so rewrite history in relation to fathers and the experience of fathering, to be a better father than their father was.?

Neil

How many reasons does she mention??

Catherine

She mentioned three reasons. The first was that it was that time in life – the guys had a home and a job and having children was the thing to do next.?

Neil

Another reason was that it was what their partners wanted, even if they weren't that?keen?themselves. If you're?not?keen?on something it means you are 'not enthusiastic about it', it's not really something you want to do, but because it's what their partner wants they agree to it, or as Dr Machin said, they're?going along with it.?

Catherine

Yes,?going along with?something, is a phrase that means 'agreeing to do' something even though you don't really want to do it. It's interesting that Dr Machin said that some men?admit?to?this. To?admit?to?something is to 'say or agree that something is true even if you're perhaps ashamed of it or you don't want it to be true'.?

Neil

There was one more reason she mentioned and that was that some men become parents because they want to be a better father than their own father had been. Let’s listen again.?

Dr Anna Machin

There's lots of different reasons why men want to be fathers ... for some of them it's just a stage in life they've reached. They've got the house, they've got the job, now it's time to have a family. Sometimes they?admit?that actually they're not that?keen, but their partner wants a baby, so they're kinda?going along with?it. And a reasonable number actually say they do it because they want to undo what their father did to them, so rewrite history in relation to fathers and the experience of fathering, to be a better father than their father was.?

Neil

So what is it about some father's own dads that they didn't like? Here's Dr Machin again.?

Dr Anna Machin

Well, in some cases, you know, the father would be neglectful, some fathers were?absent?and others they just felt they were a very, I suppose, we'd say a 1950s father so distant,?disciplinarian?not actually involved in their children's daily life and certainly not involved in their care. So today's generation fathers, even in the 10 years that I've been studying dads we've seen a massive evolution in how?hands-on?fathers are.?

Neil

She talks there about some negative characteristics associated with dads in the past. She suggests that some fathers didn't have a very close relationship with their sons, they were?absent?which means they weren't at home a lot and 'didn't spend time' with their children.?

Catherine

Yes, and some fathers were seen as a?disciplinarian. That describes someone whose main communication with their children was to give them strict rules and tell them off or punish them if they did something wrong.?

Neil

These days, according to Dr Machin, fathers are much more?hands-on. This phrase means they are 'much more involved' with their children and share bringing up their children with their partners.?

Catherine

And talking of sharing, Neil, come on – it's time to know the answer to today's question.?

Neil

Yes, indeed. According to recent research in the UK, what is the percentage of fathers who are there when their children are born? Was it 55%, 75% or 95%??

Catherine

And I said a very optimistic 95%.?

Neil

Being optimistic is good obviously because you are correct.?

Catherine

That's fantastic!?

Neil

And now, for something else fantastic, our review of today's vocabulary…?

Catherine

We started off with?admit to?for when you say something is true, even if it might make you look a little bit bad. And before we go on I have to?admit, Neil, that it was me who ate your biscuit.?

Neil

Which one??

Catherine

The one that you left on the desk.?

Neil

That's all right. I wasn't really?keen on?it anyway. It had been on the floor.?

Catherine

What? Yuck!?

Neil

Yeah, well, it serves you right! And to be?keen on?something is our next phrase, meaning 'being very interested in and enthusiastic about' something.?

Catherine

Then we had?to go along with?something. This is when you agree to do something even if you are not?keen on?it.?

Neil

An?absent father?is one who is not at home to spend time with his children.?

Catherine

And some fathers are?disciplinarians. They 'have strict rules and they give out punishments' but these days more fathers are?hands-on?which means they are 'very much involved' in looking after and bringing up their children.?

Neil

Well, that's all we have time for today. Join us again next time and remember you can find us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, YouTube and of course our website bbclearningenglish.com. See you soon. Goodbye!?

Catherine

Bye!