2022年的畢業(yè)季來啦！今年全美的畢業(yè)典禮恢復(fù)往常的舉行模式，不再是線上云畢業(yè)。

NYU這一屆的畢業(yè)生，不僅趕上了后疫情期久違的現(xiàn)場畢業(yè)典禮，還碰上了超幸運的事兒：美國流行天后霉霉（Taylor Swift）和他們一起參加畢業(yè)典禮，并作為嘉賓發(fā)表演講！

她是創(chuàng)作型歌手，也是制作人和導(dǎo)演，獲獎無數(shù)，而現(xiàn)在她又多了一個嶄新的頭銜：博士。就在5月18日，NYU 授予她藝術(shù)榮譽博士學(xué)位（Doctor of Fine Arts）。

畢業(yè)典禮全程直播，鏡頭一掃到進場的 Taylor Swift，全場都沸騰為她歡呼，整個畢業(yè)典禮仿佛變成了她的專場演唱會。在萬眾矚目之下，她發(fā)表了畢業(yè)致辭，感謝 NYU 讓她圓了“大學(xué)夢”。

很多在場學(xué)生在推上發(fā)言，說自己被霉霉的發(fā)言給整哭了，讓他們超有共鳴。而她的現(xiàn)場照也全網(wǎng)出圈，印證了那句：越努力越幸運越美麗！

人生有太多需要做出正確選擇的關(guān)鍵時刻，但我們經(jīng)常會為此不知所措。霉霉用自己的親身經(jīng)歷告訴我們，人生本就不完美，錯誤有時候也會帶來那些最美好的東西。

以下是 Taylor Swift 在 NYU 畢業(yè)典禮演講視頻及全文。

演講全文

大家好，我是泰勒。上次在如此大的體育場時，我正踩著高跟鞋跳舞，穿著閃閃發(fā)光的緊身衣?，F(xiàn)在這身畢業(yè)服可真的是舒服太多了。

Hi, I'm Taylor.Last time I was in a stadium this size, I was dancing in heels and wearing a glittery leotard. This outfit is much more comfortable.

我要向紐約大學(xué)董事會主席 Bill Berkeley 和其他所有成員、紐約大學(xué)校長 Andrew Hamilton 、教務(wù)長 Katherine Fleming 以及今天在座的教職員工和校友表示由衷的感謝，是他們讓這一天成為可能。

I'd like to say a huge thank you to NYU's Chairman of the Board of Trustees, Bill Berkeley and all the trustees and members of the board, NYU's President Andrew Hamilton, Provost Katherine Fleming, and the faculty and alumni here today who have made this day possible.

我很自豪能與同行領(lǐng)獎?wù)?Susan Hockfield 和 Felix Matos Rodriguez 分享這一天，他們用自己工作改善我們世界的方式讓我謙卑。至于我，我……90% 相信自己來這里的主要原因是我有一首歌叫《22》。我只想說，我非常高興今天能在這里和你們 Class of 2022 一起慶祝和畢業(yè)。

I feel so proud to share this day with my fellow honorees Susan Hockfield and Felix Matos Rodriguez, who humble me with the ways they improve our world with their work. As for me, I'm…90% sure the main reason I'm here is because I have a song called ‘22' .And let me just say, I am elated to be here with you today as we celebrate and graduate New York University's Class of 2022.

1.沒有一人是孤軍奮戰(zhàn)的

今天在座的所有人，沒有一個是孤軍奮戰(zhàn)的。我們每位都像是由自身周圍的人拼湊而成的“拼布小棉被”。他們愛我們，相信我們的未來，向我們展示同理心和善意，或者告訴我們真相，即便那些話可能不是那么的入耳。在完全沒有把握的情況下，這些人也在鼓勵相信著我們可以做到。

Not a single one of us here today has done it alone. We are each a patchwork quilt of those who have loved us, those who have believed in our futures, those who showed us empathy and kindness or told us the truth even when it wasn't easy to hear. Those who told us we could do it when there was absolutely no proof of that.

有人給你講過故事，教你尋夢，提供一些對與錯的道德準(zhǔn)則供你嘗試和生活。有人竭盡全力向你這個孩子解釋這個瘋狂復(fù)雜的世界中的每一個概念，因為你問了無數(shù)個問題，比如“月亮是如何工作的”和“為什么我們可以吃沙拉而不吃草”。

Someone read stories to you and taught you to dream and offered up some moral code of right and wrong for you to try and live by. Someone tried their best to explain every concept in this insanely complex world to the child that was you, as you asked a bazillion questions like 'how does the moon work' and 'why can we eat salad but not grass.'

也許他們做得并不完美，但也沒有人能做到完美；也許他們已經(jīng)不在我們身邊了，我也希望你們今天能記住他們。如果他們在這個體育場，我希望你們能找到自己的方式來表達自己的感激，感謝一路以來為到達目的地所共同經(jīng)歷的得與失。

And maybe they didn't do it perfectly. No one ever can. Maybe they aren't with us anymore, and in that case I hope you'll remember them today. If they are here in this stadium, I hope you'll find your own way to express your gratitude for all the steps and missteps that have led us to this common destination.

我知道語言應(yīng)該是我自己的“東西”，但我永遠無法找到合適的話來感謝我的媽媽和爸爸，還有我的兄弟 Austin，感謝他們每天做出的犧牲，使我能夠告別咖啡館唱歌，最終和你們一起站在這里。沒有任何語言是能足夠表達這份感激的。對于今天在這里支持學(xué)生追求教育豐富性的所有了不起的父母、家人、導(dǎo)師、老師、盟友、朋友和親人，請讓我現(xiàn)在對你們說一句：Welcome to New York. It's been waiting for you.

I know that words are supposed to be my‘thing', but I will never be able to find the words to thank my mom and my dad, and my brother, Austin, for the sacrifices they made every day so that I could go from singing in coffee houses to standing up here with you all today because no words would ever be enough. To all the incredible parents, family members, mentors, teachers, allies, friends and loved ones here today who have supported these students in their pursuit of educational enrichment, let me say to you now: Welcome to New York. It's been waiting for you.

2.關(guān)于真正的大學(xué)生活

我要感謝紐約大學(xué)讓我理論上，至少在紙面上，成為一名博士。當(dāng)然不是你們在緊急情況下想要的那種“doctor”，除非你們的具體緊急情況是迫切需要聽到一首帶有朗朗上口 hook 和宣泄強烈 bridge 的歌曲；或者你們的緊急情況是需要一個可以在 1 分鐘內(nèi)命名 50 多種類型貓的人。

I'd like to thank NYU for making me technically, on paper at least, a doctor. Not the type of doctor you would want around in the case of an emergency, unless your specific emergency was that you desperately needed to hear a song with a catchy hook and an intensely cathartic bridge section. Or if your emergency was that you needed a person who can name over 50 breeds of cats in one minute.

本質(zhì)上來講，我從來沒有經(jīng)歷過真正的大學(xué)生活。我公立高中上到十年級，在機場航站樓的地板上完成了學(xué)業(yè)。之后，我上路進行了一場電臺巡回演出，聽起來很迷人，但實際上它僅是由一輛出租汽車、汽車旅館、我和我媽組成。我和媽媽在登機時還會假裝母女吵架，為了不想有人坐在我們之間的空位。

I never got to have the normal college experience, per se. I went to public high school until tenth grade and finished my education doing homeschool work on the floors of airport terminals. Then I went out on the road on a radio tour, which sounds incredibly glamorous but in reality it consisted of a rental car, motels, and my mom and I pretending to have loud mother daughter fights with each other during boarding so no one would want the empty seat between us on Southwest.

小時候，我常常想著自己會去哪所大學(xué)，幻想著我會在新生宿舍墻上掛什么樣的海報。我甚至在我夢想的大學(xué)里為我的歌曲“Love Story”設(shè)定了 MV 的結(jié)尾，在那里我遇到了一個男模在草地上看書，互相只看一眼，就意識到我們曾經(jīng)相愛過。這正是你們在過去 4 年中的某個時刻所經(jīng)歷的，對吧？

As a kid, I always thought I would go away to college, imagining the posters I'd hang on the wall of my freshmen dorm. I even set the ending of my music video for my song “Love Story” at my fantasy imaginary college, where I meet a male model reading a book on the grass and with one single glance, we realize we had been in love in our past lives. Which is exactly what you guys all experienced at some point in the last 4 years, right?

但我真的不能向你們抱怨自己沒有正常的大學(xué)經(jīng)歷，因為你們在疫情期間去了紐約大學(xué)，基本上被隔離在宿舍里或不得不通過 Zoom 上課。平時大學(xué)里的每個人都對考試成績感到壓力，但這段特殊時期，你們還必須通過無數(shù)次 COVID 測試。

But I really can't complain about not having a normal college experience to you because you went to NYU during a global pandemic, being essentially locked into your dorms or having to do classes over Zoom. Everyone in college during normal times stresses about test scores, but on top of that you also had to pass like a thousand COVID tests.

正常的大學(xué)經(jīng)歷，其實也是你們想要的。但這種情況下，我們都清楚，人生并不是你想要什么就有什么的。你得到你所能得到的。正如我想對你們說的，你們應(yīng)該為自己所做的一切感到自豪。今天你們將離開紐約大學(xué)，走出去尋找下一個世界。我也將如此。

I imagine the idea of a normal college experience was all you wanted too. But in this case you and I both learned that you don't always get all the things in the bag that you selected from the menu in the delivery service that is life. You get what you get. And as I would like to say to you, you should be very proud of what you've done with it. Today you leave New York University and then you go out into the world searching for what's next. And so will I.

因此作為一項規(guī)則，除非被要求，我盡量不給任何人提供未被懇求的建議。稍后我會詳細闡述。我想，在今天這種情況下我已被正式邀請，傳授我可能擁有的任何智慧，并告訴你們迄今為止對我的生活有幫助的事情。

So as a rule, I try not to give anyone unsolicited advice unless they ask for it. I'll go into this more later. I guess I have been officially solicited in this situation, to impart whatever wisdom I might have and tell you the things that helped me in my life so far.

請記住，我絕對沒有資格告訴你們該做什么。你們在這里工作、奮斗、犧牲、學(xué)習(xí)和夢想，所以，你們知道自己在做什么。你們做事的方式和原因，也會跟我不盡相同。

Please bear in mind that I, in no way, feel qualified to tell you what to do. You've worked and struggled and sacrificed and studied and dreamed your way here today and so, you know what you're doing. You'll do things differently than I did them and for different reasons.

所以我不會告訴你們該怎么做，因為沒人喜歡這樣。但我將會提供一些希望在開始職業(yè)生涯時就能知道的生活小竅門，幫助你們駕馭生活、愛情、壓力、選擇、羞恥、希望和友誼。

So I won't tell you what to do because no one likes that.I will, however, give you some life hacks I wish I knew when I was starting out my dreams of a career, and navigating life, love, pressure, choices, shame, hope and friendship.

3.抓住和釋放

第一，生活可能很沉重，特別是當(dāng)你試圖背負這一切的時候。成長和進入生活新篇章的一部分，是關(guān)于抓住和釋放。我的意思是，你們知道要保留什么，要放手什么。你不能背負所有的東西，所有的怨恨，所有關(guān)于你前任的最新消息，或者校霸在他叔叔創(chuàng)辦的對沖基金公司中得到的所有令人羨慕的晉升。

The first of which is…life can be heavy, especially if you try to carry it all at once. Part of growing up and moving into new chapters of your life is about catch and release. What I mean by that is, knowing what things to keep, and what things to release. You can't carry all things, all grudges, all updates on your ex, all enviable promotions your school bully got at the hedge fund his uncle started.

決定你們要擁有什么，其余的就放手吧。很多時候，你們生活中的美好事物總是更輕松，所以也有更多的空間來容納它們。而一段糟糕的關(guān)系可以重過許多美妙、簡單的快樂。你可以自由選擇哪些東西來填補你的時間和空間。請保持辨別力。

Decide what is yours to hold and let the rest go. Oftentimes the good things in your life are lighter anyway, so there's more room for them. One toxic relationship can outweigh so many wonderful, simple joys. You get to pick what your life has time and room for. Be discerning.

4.永遠不要為嘗試感到羞恥

其次，學(xué)會與尷尬或難為情共存。無論你多么努力地避免它們，你都會在回顧你的生活時回顧到你的尷尬或難為情。這些在一生中是無法避免的。甚至“cringe”這個詞也有朝一日可能被視為“尷尬、難為情”。

Secondly, learn to live alongside cringe. No matter how hard you try to avoid being cringe, you will look back on your life and cringe retrospectively. Cringe is unavoidable over a lifetime. Even the term ‘cringe' might someday be deemed ‘cringe.'

我敢肯定，你們現(xiàn)在可能正在做著或穿著一些以后回頭看會發(fā)現(xiàn)反感和搞笑的東西。你們無法避免它，所以不要嘗試著去避免。例如，我有一個階段，在整個 2012年，我穿得像個50年代的家庭主婦。但你們知道嗎？我當(dāng)時很開心。潮流趨勢和人生階段是有趣的。回頭看，笑一笑也很有趣。

I promise you, you're probably doing or wearing something right now that you will look back on later and find revolting and hilarious. You can't avoid it, so don't try to. For example, I had a phase where, for the entirety of 2012, I dressed like a 1950s housewife. But you know what? I was having fun. Trends and phases are fun. Looking back and laughing is fun.

當(dāng)我們談?wù)撟屛覀兏械讲话驳珜嶋H上不應(yīng)該的事情時，我想說的是，不要隱藏你們對于事物的熱情。在我看來，在我們的“無憂無慮的矛盾心理”文化中，對“熱情”有一種錯誤的不光彩認知。這種態(tài)度延續(xù)了這樣的想法，即“想要它”是不酷的，認為不努力的人從根本上講比努力的人更時髦。

And while we're talking about things that make us squirm but really shouldn't, I'd like to say that I'm a big advocate for not hiding your enthusiasm for things. It seems to me that there is a false stigma around eagerness in our culture of ‘unbothered ambivalence.' This outlook perpetuates the idea that it's not cool to ‘want it.' That people who don't try hard are fundamentally more chic than people who do.

我無法知道，因為我做過很多事情，但我從來都不是“時髦”方面的專家。但我站在這里，所以當(dāng)我這樣說時你需要聽?。河肋h不要為嘗試感到羞恥。不勞而獲是一個神話。最不想嘗試的人只是我高中時想約會和成為朋友的人，而最想嘗試的人是我現(xiàn)在雇用來為我的公司工作的人。

And I wouldn't know because I have been a lot of things but I've never been an expert on ‘chic.'?But I'm the one who's up here so you have to listen to me when I say this: Never be ashamed of trying. Effortlessness is a myth. The people who wanted it the least were the ones I wanted to date and be friends with in high school. The people who want it most are the people I now hire to work for my company.

我從12歲時開始寫歌，從那時起，它就成為了我生活的指南針，反過來，我的生活也指導(dǎo)了我的創(chuàng)作。我所做的一切都只是我創(chuàng)作的延伸，無論是導(dǎo)演視頻還是短片，為巡演創(chuàng)造視覺效果，還是站在舞臺上表演。這一切都與我對這項工作的熱愛有關(guān)，讓我獲得通過理清想法縮小范圍并將其打磨成功的興奮感。

I started writing songs when I was twelve and since then, it's been the compass guiding my life, and in turn, my life guided my writing. Everything I do is just an extension of my writing, whether it's directing videos or a short film, creating the visuals for a tour, or standing on stage performing. Everything is connected by my love of the craft, the thrill of working through ideas and narrowing them down and polishing it all up in the end.

半夜醒來，摒棄舊的想法，只是因為你想到了一個全新的、更好的想法。一個情節(jié)設(shè)置，將整個故事聯(lián)系到一起。他們稱之為“hook”是有原因的。單單一串詞有時就會讓我深陷其中，在它被記錄或?qū)懴聛碇拔覠o法專注于其他任何事情。

Waking up in the middle of the night and throwing out the old idea because you just thought of a newer, better one. A plot device that ties the whole thing together. There's a reason they call it a hook. Sometimes a string of words just ensnares me and I can't focus on anything until it's been recorded or written down.

作為一名詞曲作者，我從來不能坐以待斃，或者在一個創(chuàng)意區(qū)停留太久。我已經(jīng)制作并發(fā)行了11張專輯，在此過程中，我的流派從鄉(xiāng)村轉(zhuǎn)向流行，到另類再到民謠。這聽起來像是一個非常以詞曲作者為中心的討論內(nèi)容，但在某種程度上，我真的認為我們都是作家。

As a songwriter I've never been able to sit still, or stay in one creative place for too long. I've made and released 11 albums and in the process, I've switched genres from country to pop to alternative to folk. This might sound like a very songwriter-centric line of discussion but in a way, I really do think we are all writers.

我們大多數(shù)人在不同的情況下用不同的聲音進行創(chuàng)作。你在 Instagram Stories 中的創(chuàng)作與在畢業(yè)論文中的寫作是不同的。你向老板發(fā)送的電子郵件與給家里最好朋友發(fā)送的電子郵件是不一樣的。我們都是文學(xué)變色龍，我認為這很迷人。

And most of us write in a different voice for different situations. You write differently in your Instagram stories than you do your senior thesis. You send a different type of email to your boss than you do your best friend from home. We are all literary chameleons and I think it's fascinating.

這只是我們多面性的一種延續(xù)。而且我知道，弄清楚你要成為誰以及何時實現(xiàn)，你現(xiàn)在是誰以及如何行動才能到達你想去的地方，這些可能會讓你不知所措。我有一些好消息：你可以自己做決定了。但我還有一些可怕的消息：這完全取決于你了。

It's just a continuation of the idea that we are so many things, all the time. And I know it can be really overwhelming figuring out who to be, and when. Who you are now and how to act in order to get where you want to go. I have some good news: it's totally up to you. I also have some terrifying news: it's totally up to you.

5.被否定和被肯定同樣重要

我先前說過，除非有人要求，我從來不提供建議，現(xiàn)在我會告訴你們?yōu)槭裁?。作為一個15歲就開始我眾所周知的職業(yè)生涯的人，是有代價的。這個代價就是多年不請自來的建議。十多年來，作為每個房間里最年輕的人，意味著我不斷收到音樂行業(yè)年長成員、媒體、采訪者和高管的警告。這些建議常常以隱晦的警告形式出現(xiàn)?？?，當(dāng)我們的社會完全沉迷于擁有完美的年輕女性榜樣的想法時，我還是公眾眼中的青少年。

I said to you earlier that I don't ever offer advice unless someone asks me for it, and now I'll tell you why. As a person who started my very public career at the age of 15, it came with a price. And that price was years of unsolicited advice. Being the youngest person in every room for over a decade meant that I was constantly being issued warnings from older members of the music industry, the media, interviewers, executives. This advice often presented itself as thinly veiled warnings. See, I was a teenager in the public eye at a time when our society was absolutely obsessed with the idea of having perfect young female role models.

感覺就像我所做的每一次采訪，都包括采訪者關(guān)于我有一天“脫軌”的輕微挖苦。我是這樣說說，對每個人而言也意味著不同的事情。因此，我成為了一個年輕的大人，同時被灌輸了這樣一個信息：如果我不犯任何錯誤，美國所有的孩子長大都會成為完美的天使。但是，如果我真的出錯了，整個地球都會從它的軸心上掉下來，這完全是我的錯，我會永遠永遠地被關(guān)進流行歌星的監(jiān)獄。這一切都圍繞著這樣一個想法，即犯錯等于失敗，最終失去了任何幸福或有意義的生活的機會。

It felt like every interview I did included slight barbs by the interviewer about me one day ‘running off the rails.' That meant a different thing to everyone person said it me. So I became a young adult while being fed the message that if I didn't make any mistakes, all the children of America would grow up to be perfect angels. However, if I did slip up, the entire earth would fall off its axis and it would be entirely my fault and I would go to pop star jail forever and ever. It was all centered around the idea that mistakes equal failure and ultimately, the loss of any chance at a happy or rewarding life.

但我的經(jīng)驗卻并非如此。對于我來說，我的錯誤也帶來了生命中那些最美好的事情。搞砸了某件事情之后的尷尬也是必要的人生體驗，因為比尷尬更重要的是跌倒后重新站起來，撣撣灰塵，然后去關(guān)注那些經(jīng)歷過磨難之后仍然跟你站在一起，共同笑對磨難的人。失敗是命運的禮物，每每回看那些被拒絕、被排斥、落選、失敗、未晉級的時刻，就會體會到被否定和被肯定一樣重要，甚至比被肯定更重要。

This has not been my experience. My experience has been that my mistakes led to the best things in my life. And being embarrassed when you mess up is part of the human experience. Getting back up, dusting yourself off and seeing who still wants to hang out with you afterward and laugh about it? That's a gift. The times I was told no or wasn't included, wasn't chosen, didn't win, didn't make the cut…looking back, it really feels like those moments were as important, if not more crucial, than the moments I was told ‘yes.'

在家鄉(xiāng)的時候，沒有被邀請去參加派對或者去別人家過夜就讓我感到深深的孤獨，也正是因為孤獨，我才能夠坐在房間里去寫那些助我通往其他地方的歌。納什維爾的唱片公司高管跟我說，只有 35 歲的家庭主婦才會聽鄉(xiāng)村音樂，而且他們的花名冊也沒有一個十三歲小孩的位置。聽完他們的話，我就在回家的車上哭了。

Not being invited to the parties and sleepovers in my hometown made me feel hopelessly lonely, but because I felt alone, I would sit in my room and write the songs that would get me a ticket somewhere else. Having label executives in Nashville tell me that only 35 year old housewives listen to country music and there was no place for a 13 year old on their roster made me cry in the car on the way home.

但后來，我把我的歌曲放到了 MySpace 上，沒錯，就是 MySpace，同時也在跟上面的其他年輕人互相留言，他們像我一樣熱愛鄉(xiāng)村民謠，卻找不到一首歌能唱出他們的心聲。有很多樂評人對我撰寫深入的，經(jīng)常是批評性的文章，這讓我覺得自己仿佛生活在一種奇怪的假象之中，但也正是這段經(jīng)歷讓我開始自省與內(nèi)觀，去了解真正的我到底是什么樣的人。

But then I'd post my songs on my MySpace and yes, MySpace, and would message with other teenagers like me who loved country music, but just didn't have anyone singing from their perspective. Having journalists write in-depth, oftentimes critical, pieces about who they perceive me to be made me feel like I was living in some weird simulation, but it also made me look inward to learn about who I actually am.

在我十幾二十歲約會的時候，整個世界看我的感情生活就像看球賽一樣，而且我每一場都輸了；但同時，這段經(jīng)歷卻也教會我如何無畏地保護好我的私生活。年少時無數(shù)次地在公眾面前被狠狠地羞辱，雖然讓當(dāng)時的我非常痛苦，但這也迫使我快速地學(xué)會了不要在意那些荒謬可笑的言論，淡然那些忽高忽低的曝光度與路人緣。被網(wǎng)暴的經(jīng)歷幾乎毀掉了我的事業(yè)，但這也讓我對各種各樣的美酒，有了更好的了解。

Having the world treat my love life like a spectator sport in which I lose every single game was not a great way to date in my teens and twenties, but it taught me to protect my private life fiercely. Being publicly humiliated over and over again at a young age was excruciatingly painful but it forced me to devalue the ridiculous notion of minute by minute, ever fluctuating social relevance and likability. Getting canceled on the internet and nearly losing my career gave me an excellent knowledge of all the types of wine.

我知道我聽起來像一個完美的樂觀主義者，但我真的不是。我總是失去審視的方向。有時一切都感覺完全沒有意義。我知道從完美主義的角度過好自己的生活所帶來的壓力。我知道我正在和一群完美主義者交談，因為你們今天是從紐約大學(xué)畢業(yè)的。

I know I sound like a consummate optimist, but I'm really not. I lose perspective all the time. Sometimes everything just feels completely pointless. I know the pressure of living your life through the lens of perfectionism. And I know that I'm talking to a group of perfectionists because you are here today graduating from NYU.

所以你們可能很難聽到：在你們的生活中，你不可避免地會說錯話，相信錯誤的人，反應(yīng)不足，反應(yīng)過度，傷害不值得的人，過度思考，根本不思考，自我破壞，創(chuàng)造一個只有你經(jīng)驗存在的現(xiàn)實，毀掉自己和他人的完美時光，否認任何錯誤，不采取措施糾正，感到非常內(nèi)疚，讓內(nèi)疚吞噬你，跌入谷底，最終解決你造成的痛苦，下次嘗試做得更好，消沉，反復(fù)。我也沒撒謊，這些錯誤會導(dǎo)致你失去一些東西。

And so this may be hard for you to hear: In your life, you will inevitably misspeak, trust the wrong people, under-react, overreact, hurt the people who didn't deserve it, overthink, not think at all, self sabotage, create a reality where only your experience exists, ruin perfectly good moments for yourself and others, deny any wrongdoing, not take the steps to make it right, feel very guilty, let the guilt eat at you, hit rock bottom, finally address the pain you caused, try to do better next time, rinse, repeat. And I'm not gonna lie, these mistakes will cause you to lose things.

我想告訴你們，失去并不僅僅意味著失去。很多時候，當(dāng)我們失去一些東西時，我們也會收獲到一些東西。

I'm trying to tell you that losing things doesn't just mean losing. A lot of the time, when we lose things, we gain things too.

6.You're on your own now

現(xiàn)在你們離開了學(xué)校的條條框框，開始規(guī)劃自己的道路。你們的每一個選擇都會導(dǎo)致下一個選擇，而下一個選擇又會引至再下一個選擇，我也知道有時很難知道該走哪條路。

Now you leave the structure and framework of school and chart your own path. Every choice you make leads to the next choice which leads to the next, and I know it's hard to know sometimes which path to take.

生活中總會有需要為自己挺身而出的時候；當(dāng)正確的做法是退縮和道歉的時候；當(dāng)正確的做法是戰(zhàn)斗的時候；當(dāng)正確的做法是轉(zhuǎn)身逃跑的時候。我們有時需要全力以赴的堅持，有時需要優(yōu)雅的放手。有時，正確的做法是以進步和改革的名義拋棄舊的思想觀點。有時，正確的做法是聽取前人的智慧。

There will be times in life when you need to stand up for yourself. Times when the right thing is to back down and apologize. Times when the right thing is to fight, times when the right thing is to turn and run. Times to hold on with all you have and times to let go with grace. Sometimes the right thing to do is to throw out the old schools of thought in the name of progress and reform. Sometimes the right thing to do is to listen to the wisdom of those who have come before us.

在這些關(guān)鍵時刻，你們又怎么會知道正確的選擇是什么呢？你們不知道的。

How will you know what the right choice is in these crucial moments? You won't.

我又該怎么給這么多人提供人生選擇的建議呢？我不會的。壞消息是，你們現(xiàn)在要靠自己了。好消息是，你們現(xiàn)在終于可以靠自己了。

How do I give advice to this many people about their life choices? I won't. Scary news is: you're on your own now. Cool news is: You're on your own now.

我給大家最后留下這些話：我們是被內(nèi)心深處的本能、直覺、欲望、恐懼、傷疤和夢想所引導(dǎo)的。有時你們會搞砸事情，我也一樣。當(dāng)然我淪落到如此地步的時候，你們大概率都已經(jīng)在互聯(lián)網(wǎng)上了解到了。無論如何……困難的事情都會發(fā)生在我們身上。我們會走出困境，我們會吸取教訓(xùn)，我們也會因此變得更有韌性。

I leave you with this: We are led by our gut instincts, our intuition, our desires and fears, our scars and our dreams. And you will screw it up sometimes. So will I. And when I do, you will most likely read about on the internet. Anyway…h(huán)ard things will happen to us. We will recover. We will learn from it. We will grow more resilient because of it.

只要我們有幸還在呼吸，我們就會吸氣、呼氣、吸氣、呼氣。我現(xiàn)在作為一名“doctor”，所以我知道呼吸是如何運作的。

As long as we are fortunate enough to be breathing, we will breathe in, breathe through, breathe deep, breathe out. And I'm a doctor now, so I know how breathing works.

我希望你們知道我是多么榮幸能和你們分享這一天。我們正在一起做這件事。那么，就讓我們繼續(xù)像22屆學(xué)生那樣，繼續(xù)跳舞吧！

I hope you know how proud I am to share this day with you. We're doing this together. So let's just keep dancing like we're…the class of 22.

很多踏入名校、躊躇滿志的留學(xué)生，或許都有著追求完美的目標(biāo)，也曾為自己還不夠完美感到迷茫和不知所措。

但人生本不完美，錯誤也并不等于失敗。依靠自己的力量去體悟人生，鍛煉自己的韌性，是我們更需要做的。

希望霉霉的這番話能給予各位畢業(yè)生力量。切記精益求精，永遠向上，但是沒必要讓生活變得完美，給自己自由去冒險，一路向前！