Seeing through people: the lower manifestation of empathy.

聽起來，共情是一種能力，是，也不是。你能感受別人的痛苦和快樂，能夠看到、聽到、察覺到別人的情緒變化。

It feels like empathy is a kind of ability, it is true, though, false as well. You can feel others’?pains and happiness, you can see, hear and perceive the subtle changes of others’?emotions. ?

想要這種能力嗎？你覺得你想，但其實(shí)你不想。就像很多人總覺得另一份工作更適合自己，或者某某職業(yè)是自己的理想工作，不過是沒有看到背后的邏輯罷了。就是他們情緒和看法的來源，以及看到種種必然性和可能性的能力。

Want this ability? You want, but actually, you do not want. Just like many people always reckon another job is more suitable (air quote here) for them, or some particular occupation is their ideal fit, but this is merely due to their not seeing the underlying logic behind it, which is the origin of where their emotions and opinions come/derive/spring from, along with the ability to see all the certainties and possibilities.

就像，從來沒有完美的工作，你覺得完美的工作，只是你覺得。說白了，就像別人家的飯菜更香是一個(gè)道理。就像很多人想做舞蹈家或者歌唱家，但其實(shí)他們中的絕大部分根本受不了背后的無數(shù)次的孤獨(dú)的令人絕望的反復(fù)練習(xí)，就像他們?nèi)淌懿涣爽F(xiàn)在工作的某些方面一樣。

The same thing goes like, there is never a perfect job for anybody, the job you regard as perfect is just a delusion. To put it straightforwardly, more like, the grass is always greener on the other side. For example, loads of people may be willing to be a singer or a dancer, but in fact, most of them will not be able to bear the countless, desperate and repetitive practice while being super solitary at the same time, exactly as they can not stand some parts of their current work.

你想要共情嗎？真的想嗎？那來看看一些可能的事實(shí)與共情能力的層級(jí)吧。

You want empathy? Desperately want it? OK, let us have a look at the basic truth of it and some possible levels of empathy capacity.

首先，共情的底色也是痛苦，就像喜劇的內(nèi)核是悲劇。

First of all, the base colour of empathy is misery/pain/sorrow, the same as that the core of comedy is always tragedy.

當(dāng)你能夠看到喜劇的內(nèi)核，也許，就不再能看喜劇了。因?yàn)閯e人會(huì)笑，但你可能會(huì)哭，而且可能別人笑得越厲害，你哭得越傷心。除非，這個(gè)喜劇檔次夠高，也許你已超出那個(gè)自我，那或許是不一樣的結(jié)局和情況了。

When you are able to see the kernel of comedy, here is a possibility that you can never watch comedies, the reason is, other people may laugh while you may cry. And it is likely that the harder others laugh, the more sadly you may cry. Except that this comedy is in much higher level(air quote here.), or possibly you have exceeded over the self, then it would be different situations and results.

共情也是一樣的，分為多個(gè)檔次（Brand個(gè)人臆測，無實(shí)際數(shù)據(jù)支撐）。?0級(jí)，初級(jí)，中級(jí)，高級(jí)，神級(jí)。

There are several levels in empathy capacity.( Personal conjecture from Brand, no backup of practical data.) Level 0, low level, middle level, high level, god level.

0級(jí)：

也算罕見的了，也許壓根沒有。那毫無人性的惡魔，那無畏無知的傻子，還有那欲望填滿心田的暴躁靈魂們，多少趨近于0級(jí)。

LEVEL 0:

Pretty rare, or likely no of them at all. Those inhuman devils, those dauntless fools, and those fiery souls whose hearts are filled with lusts.

初級(jí)：

A 能有一些基本的反應(yīng)，能因?yàn)楦兄揭稽c(diǎn)別人的痛苦而傷心的哭，能偶爾通過自己的經(jīng)歷感知?jiǎng)e人的痛苦。

B 察言觀色。通過一些基本的書籍或者培訓(xùn)，具備了一定的觀察能力，其實(shí)也是共情的表現(xiàn)之一，只是被物質(zhì)化的共情。

Low level:

A Have same reactions to emotions. May cry sadly because of feeling others’?pains, occasionally feel pains from others by empathizing through their own experiences.

B See through people. Via some books or training, equipped with sort of observation ability, actually this is just part of manifestation of empathy capacity, though kind of materialistic.

中級(jí)：

A 相對較容易感知?jiǎng)e人的痛苦。

B 察言觀色。不再依托所謂的信號(hào)，憑借感知能力共情能力察覺別人的心態(tài)、心情和情緒變化。

Middle level:

A Easily sense others’?pains and sorrow.

B Seeing through people. No longer rely on signals（air quote here）, perceive others’?mentality, mood and emotional changes based on perception and empathy.

高級(jí)：

A 多愁善感。良性的知足感恩，非良性的，可能抑郁自殺等。

B 疲于觀察。社恐，自閉，害怕人性。

High level:

A Sentimental, or mushy. Benign one, being content of life, if not, possibly depressed, likely to commit suicide.

B Exhausted of perception. Social phobia, autism, fear of humanity.

神級(jí)

誰知道呢，也許，有大愛，或極惡。

God level.

Who knows? Probably, philanthropic, or heinous.

以上只是順口閑聊，請勿當(dāng)真，隨便看看，aha

All of the above are just a small talk, please do not take it seriously, just hang around and have fun.

最后，共情不僅是一種觀察能力，更多是一種專注在自己身上的能力，不再需要通過自己的經(jīng)歷而感知對方的心情，而是你能從對方傳遞的信息基本感知對方的狀態(tài)、想法和心情。

Finally, empathy is not simply a kind of observation ability, but more like an ability that you can focus on your own. More importantly, you do not need to sense others’?emotions based on your own experiences, instead, you may know their state, thoughts and mood by the information and messages they deliver.

隨想隨筆，我自嘻嘻

Think and write, be happy-go-lucky.